Thanks to the Ecotrin community for discussing this topic. This is a topic that we base on the behavior of the people in the society, work, external use. That is judgment. We make a judgment of what we see in front of our eyes, with ourselves or with someone else. But we don't try to understand whether that thing is really like that or not. We say or think that this is our own mind.
We need to know first what is judgment? Judgment is the act or process of forming an opinion or making a decision after careful thought.
But we rarely judge with caution or thought. This is what we all do. We all live in a society that does this. But we don't think about the consequences of our judgment.
Suppose you make a drawing all day long. Another person came and made a comment without understanding your work. You will be happy if that comment is good but if that comment is bad then your desire to work will be lost. Or you may feel that your work is really bad.
But not everyone around us is experienced. For example, if you do draw, not everyone around you will understand your work. The number of not understanding is more. And because of not understanding this, misjudgment comes more in any work.
This is what we have to face in these cases at work. We have to face such situations in our own lives as well. Many such things happen in our lives. There are many cases where our third party is given the responsibility to judge the case. In all these cases the third party speaks on behalf of the person of his choice. Now even if the person he chooses is guilty, he is innocent to that judge. And the innocent person becomes guilty. Due to which this innocent person has to suffer the punishment of crime. This type of trial is called a one-sided trial. Here the person of choice of the third party is considered innocent.
But this judge does not once think about the consequences of this one-sided trial. Innocent people can often do bad things because they don't get the right justice. Many times it can act like suicide. Because of this kind of judgment, many beautiful and deep relationships end in an instant.
How do I judge people or their work?
I do not judge anyone without seeing or knowing them. I try to judge a person based on his behavior, movements, manner of speaking, quality of life. Since I live in a society, I often make many wrong judgments. And I accept that. Because all the people I've met or are still associating with do this kind of thing. So this disease is in me too. Suppose a man is walking in front of you, he can be anyone, a good man or a bad man. I don't know. But I imagine an unrealistic comment about that person inside me or make a wrong comment. Don't do it in front of him. But don't think that the people in the society I live in are bad. This is the kind of work we all do. In some cases about a man or a thing. A lot of times we make a comment or misjudge something that we have never used. But in reality, that thing is completely different. This is what we all do. Many times you do it without realizing it.
What do I do to make a judgment in the case of a person close to me or a loved one?
In this case, I judge a little harder. Because this one trial could ruin my many days of relationship. When I encounter a situation like this, I prepare myself for that situation first. Then I try to understand the whole incident. I think about a lot of time. If necessary, I share the thing with my family elders in a different way. Let's try to make an accurate judgment with their opinion. Just because I'm human doesn't always mean I'm right. I also make mistakes. But if I realize that this could lead to a bad outcome, I will take steps to make the situation better.
I stand myself in that place before judging anyone. I try to judge that situation myself. But I never like to judge one-sidedness. This leads to wrong results in all cases.