Good morning Hivers! It's another topic from the EcoTrain community and this time around, we are talking about JUDGEMENT. Why do we judge? Do you feel great when you judge others? Do you know pointing a finger at someone also points the rest at you?
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We easily judge people from afar without moving close to them to understand them and why they put up such attitudes. We tend to pass our unfair judgement and didn't wait for an answer. Should I say lack of patience or jealousy has made us to do this? We don't wait for those involved to say something and we conclude with critics on them. Are you trying to make yourself clean from such thing? Remember, we all aren't perfect and someday it will get to our turn and how would we feel when we are been judged negatively or criticized in a bad way?
I watched a touching short story and it was really emotional and I can say it was a lost opportunity and didn't give room for a correction.
A girl was seen drawing on a paper and was concentrating on her art at the side of the road. A guy came up, took out his earphones and did some exercises. He came back and still met the girl drawing. He sat beside her and complimented the girl of her drawing. She didn't reply. The guy repeated again and she didn't reply. The guy then flared up and said many things "This is how girls do, they think the guy wants to ask them out etc". She continued her drawing and the guy went for his exercise again and by the time he came back, the girl had left the spot but wrote a line on the drawing and kept it down beside the guy's bag.
"Sorry, if I didn't reply you, I am deaf"
The guy felt so bad and sorry for judging her in such a way. I was so touched.
This is what happens to everyone who are so quick to judge and at the end, they end up feeling bad for judging in such a way. Should I say many even has lost opportunities just because they were judging from afar.
Another scenario where a lady was looking for a job and an argument occured on the street of the office she had wanted to do an interview. She spoke so rudely to the young guy, not knowing he was the owner of the company and that was how she lost the job.
Why do we judge? No one is perfect and we should not rush to conclude things about what we see in a person's life, habit or attitude. Until we go near to them, find out why they are doing such, we shouldn't judge any one. God never allows us to judge any of His creature.
Problems at times cause people to do what they aren't supposed to do. Instead of us to help and support them when they needed help, we ignore them. When they now do what they aren't supposed to do, you then start judging them. Why didn't you help when they came for help? You decided to keep away from them but can hurl at them, abuse them and call them names. That is bad.
Whenever I am with my friends and they start talking about someone, I make them look beyond what they do. I tell them not to judge people because we don't know the reason behind what they do. Most of them aren't happy being in such condition and with that, we just look away and find other things to talk about.
My friend came to visit me at home and I entertained her with some snacks. She begged me to buy her drink which I didn't answer. She then said "common amount you can't afford". I was so sad even in the presence of my neighbors. I looked away and did as if I didn't hear her. She was on the point that if I had come to visit her, she would do it for me. This is someone I buy things for her when she never asks from me. Does she know what I was going through? Does she know if I even have some change on me then? I was sad within me but kept mute at that moment.
When I was seeing her off, I took the change I have at home and on our way home, I told her plainly not to try such with me again. If I have, I give. Why then are you concluding things in such a way even in the presence of everyone? She knew I was angry. Even though she didn't apologize, I have cleared it on my side. I don't take grudges and once I have talked to you about it, that ends it.
Do not judge others from afar. Try to move closer to them. Most of them might be trying to solve a problem in their lives and if you can help them, it isn't a crime. They will feel happy. Learn to see it in a bigger picture and never conclude things quickly.