QUESTION OF THE WEEK SEASON 10.3 - What habits or addictions, both good and bad, are the same in my case. I have developed a number of good habits but as we all know the man is full of bad habits. So what I would like to get rid of? I am confused, but I would like to get rid of being too suggestive in an authoritarian way!
My Good Habit- I am too helpful.
My Bad Habit- Again, I am too helpful and, being a helpful one, I sometimes go overboard, which goes against me and my relations.
I have been fighting this bad habit for a long time, and what makes it even worse is that I am overly emotional. Emotion means my thinking, reactions, and nature, which I express towards a person. These are the people whom I consider my close friends or family members. I never do it with any bad intentions. But on the contrary, I want to help them, but in doing so I say something that hurts their feelings.
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As a result, sometimes it backfires on me. Actually, the spirit plays an important role in our lives. Emotions are of many types, such as the feeling of happiness, which gives us happiness and enthusiasm, and sometimes the feeling of overenthusiasm brings me trouble and makes me sad. However, the fact, that I frequently cannot control my emotions while trying to help someone, or at least that’s what I feel, means that the person in front of me feels intimidated and gets away from me.
So my bad habit is that, however, I try to keep my habit of being overly emotional but sometimes it was difficult to control my behavior and feelings. I do it repeatedly, although I know very well that there are several measures to control my emotions.
Do you think being outspoken or calling a spade a spade is bad? Yes, I feel so, because that has brought me many unpleasant experiences. While I thought I was trying to do good for them, they considered me arrogant, and as a result, my relations with them turned sour.
I have tried to keep myself calm, to keep control over my emotions, and avoid giving advice, but when the occasion comes, it happens even if I try to stop myself. I am not saying I am disrespectful to my elders or coworkers, but I am just unable to control this habit and suggest something that’s not bad, but maybe their ego gets hurt, or the way I speak makes all the difference.
In most cases, I become very emotional, even if I try to keep myself calm and controlled. I have tried repeatedly to say to myself that I would never give advice or not in a way that sounds authoritative, but in the future, I will try to explain with no emotion or in a mild way. As it always brings harmful results for me, I can certainly avoid it.
The fact is that when I am emotional, I should avoid any kind of emotional response. Many times, I ignore the feelings of the person. Instead of taking care of the matter, I try to act as his mentor or a teacher, and the matter gets worse. I do a lot of thinking and promise to myself to control my behavior and maintain a moderate level of suggestions and the way I suggest.
And you know what? I am fully aware of my emotional behavior, or should I say, going out of the way while trying to explain something, but it just happens. Now I know very well that it is bad to be critical while trying to help someone. It's important to stay balanced and polite in order to maintain good relations, rather than be emotional and overly worked up.
In conclusion, I should know what the situation needs, or what kind of response they expect from me, and how I should control my emotions. I should either keep my mouth shut or speak within a certain limit. But the million-dollar question is, could I control myself in future?
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