Every relationship have something in common which is the fact that it has ups and downs. The infancy stages of relationships are often characterized by extreme, intense and passionate expressions of love that reduce with time. As you get comfortable in the relationship and you have seen all the sides of your partner, you may begin to feel that it is all getting boring. Well, sit back, relax and enjoy all that I have packaged for your reading pleasure.
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Even though your relationship lacks perpetual disagreements and conflicts, you still feel tired and fed up with the way things are going. You are at the point where you are confused whether you can improve the excitement in your boring relationship or it is time to start afresh with someone else. At that point where you don't feel interested about the activities and interest of your partner or when you don't pay as much attention as you use to at the very start of the relationship, then it may be that you are finding the relationship boring.
Some other signs of a boring relationship include:
- You feel unhappy each time the thought of your relationship crosses your mind
- You enjoy spending time with other people more than your partner
- It is difficult to keep a conversation for a long time with your partner
- You wish you can swap partners when you see how other people do in their relationship.
- They feel less attractive to you as they use to some times back.
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It is not a bad thing to be comfortable with your partner in your relationship. In actual fact, it signifies that you can express your true feelings and emotions around them without the fear of being judged. It is very normal in the case that you are both comfortable and happy with each other in the relationship and some little boring moments creep in. These shorts unexciting moments are not harmful to the relationship. On the other hand, if these boring moments are intense and causing issues in your relationship, it doesn't mean your relationship should be heading to the end. It is only an indication that you've got to invest more time and vibe into spicing up your relationship and make it be like the good old days.
Boredom should only pose a threat to your relationship when it is showing lack of progress and growth. If you are not constantly making efforts to get each other's attention back, it may mean that your relationship is beginning to crumble. It is likely that your relationship gets boring if you don't share the same interests because it will be difficult for the two of you to find a common ground to connect with each other. It is important to show affection and interest in all that your partner does and not ignore their feelings. Neglecting and paying less attention to your partner's needs will surely result in boredom.
Boredom can cause a serious problem on a relationship which could even lead to breakup or divorce, whichever the case may be. But, in a bid to solve the problem of boredom in your relationship, you must be able to decipher if you are bored or just fed up with the relationship. This will also make you answer the questions of what aspects of the relationship is boring to you, is it part or all? It will be easy to get a solution when you are sure of what the problem is.
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The feeling of boredom in your relationship can be a reflection of your life, that is, you are bored in general. One way to improve on this is to change your routines as a couple and as an individual. Discover new ways to make yourself and your spouse happy. This could be visiting new places such as restaurants, amusement parks, cinemas or even spicing things up in the bedroom. Also, you can reignite the sparks in your relationship by going on dates and relive some of the beautiful moments that you love when you first got together. It could be more interesting when it comes in form of surprises - get a ticket for two for a lovely movie or pick up your spouse from work and drive them to a restaurant for dinner.
A Boring relationship can be fixed, it just need the partners to communicate about their differences and work towards fixing it together as a couple.
All contents are originally written by me, @williams-owb
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Williams Oluseyi is a Linguist by discipline from one Africa's Most Prestigious Citadel of Learning, Obafemi Awolowo University. He developed interest for blogging at very early stage which motivated him to study English Language in College. He is a prolific writer, an inquisitive and judicious reader, to say the least. To get his daily bread, he is currently working in a Logistics company in Nigeria.
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