Dancing with the "but"

ADDICTIONS? We all have them! To a greater or lesser degree, our brain has been conditioning itself to obtain rewards from where it can obtain them, because, in a world that runs for its life, where change is key to many points, where what is good today, tomorrow is obsolete, it is very easy to be shipwrecked in waters of frustration and stress.

It seems to me that the addictive personality has as much to do with our genes as it does with our way of "being": the greater the passion, the deeper the addictions.

In these times, there are more addicts than ever and more sources of addiction because our brain seeks stability and routine practices as incentives not to despair, to feel good, even if it is at the cost of LOSS OF FREEDOM.

What at first is seductively attractive to distract us from what overwhelms us, whatever it may be, real or imaginary, later becomes a SLAVERY, source of rewards that sometimes, from so harmful, degenerates into mortal.

This week's question invites us to delve inside ourselves about our addictions and how does help or hinder?:

I think that all addictions hinder something in our life because we create them or "fall" into them to distract us from our fundamental purpose for living, which in fact we keep trying to understand what it is, but to try to bring the "party in peace" with our mind we provide small pleasures that, at first, are easy to control, but then they demand more attention, space and time than we had planned for "that", because it conditions us...

My experience with addictions is strange because even though I have always perceived them as weakness, I still have some, despite being aware of them and believing I have the ability to push them away. However, I have become "addicted" to not being addicted to anything or anyone in order to gain freedom.

Inside, I feel that seductions are part of everything that keeps us from advancing to higher levels of consciousness. However, I recognize that it is not easy to overcome the standardized conditioning to live in society.

Life used to be so simple that between work and raising large families, there wasn't much time left for stressing over the lack of rewards. Now, there are fewer children, more time for oneself, awareness of self-fulfillment, motivation to achieve, but also more competition and sources of stress. And, a stressed brain is a breeding ground not only for abuse of addictions, but for the creation of psychosomatic illnesses as a way of billing for frustrations.

Particularly, I recognize at first glance as addiction without working: to coffee and cakes and, worked and controlled: to make life in social platforms and to my husband, who with his addictive personality generated in me answers of addictive attachment.

Are there beneficial addictions?

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I suppose that no addiction is beneficial because they are born from imbalances and it is like expecting a madman to recognize his dementia during a crisis. They reduce anxiety, it's true, but they can also rebuild a worse one with abstinence.

But, dancing with that "but" always crossed for better or worse, we are not perfect and there will always be something that emphasizes our imperfections. There will always be seductions, there will always be setbacks, there will always be competition, there will always be disappointments and it is difficult to face them without "crutches".

Sending our brain messages of "calm down, control yourself", "everything is fine" without any emotional, biochemical, or spiritual support is like throwing a bottle with a message in it, which may or may not reach its destination.

However, indulging in small pleasures that, we know, can respond to addictions, even if we don't face it, is not so bad, because if we look at ourselves more closely than usual, we will find ourselves removing more layers. For example, regarding addictions, I thought I had fewer addictions because of my conscious struggle to keep my mind at bay, but I realize I have many and they all have consequences.

So now I realize that it is not only coffee, but also sugar and other carbohydrates, that make me overweight, along with another addiction: writing, before in Steemit and now in Hive, because it has made me more sedentary.

Although this addiction I have controlled because I no longer spend as many hours, as before, on the platform reading, commenting, writing. Now I enjoy belonging to this community without pressure, because if I put pressure on myself I get stressed and if I get stressed I make up some illness, which hasn't happened to me since the days of Steemit.

With this, I found a way to keep my brain busy on something nice that, although it is addictive to me, helps me relax the daily pressures and lead a better life. So, yes, there are addictions that can bring benefits, even if I don't fully defend them because they keep taking away my freedom, one of my core values, and which, apparently, I have transformed into one more addiction, because being freer, makes me less sociable, and I don't know if this is very good or very bad...But, I really enjoy it .

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