Something about the way I was raised caused me to seek perfection. Or maybe I was just born that way. Whatever the reason, I've always struggled with the idea that anything I created had to be perfect or it was not good enough.
This belief held me back for way too long. And it is only now, in my early forties, that I am finally starting to recognise that perfection does not exist.
And if I am ever going to get close to creating anything that appears "perfect" (because it is so darn good) it's only going to be the result of practise, practise, practise.
And not only practise but iterating or improving each time I practise whatever the skill is.
Somehow I think the goal needs to be to work towards the idea of perfection, joyously, persistently improving things along the way, all the while knowing that perfection is unattainable.
When Joan created this week's prompt about this topic in the Ladies of Hive Community, she got me thinking. I'll share the prompt here so you can follow along with me:
Successful women understand that perfection isn’t the goal — progress is. What steps are you personally taking to progress in 2025? Describe the situation, reasoning, and how you intend to set plans into motion.
There are many, many things I'm working on in 2025. Finally, released of the deep need to be perfect I've been working on this idea of "progress" for a while now.
I don't know exactly when this paradigm of needing to be perfect began to lose its grip on me but at some point in the last year, it suddenly started to become easier to just gently, steadily improve on any 'thing' that was important to me.
I'm sure it was the cumulative effect of doing so much trauma resolution work; I no longer being 'not good enough' as much as I once did. And now there is space. There is space to focus on growing, stretching, creating, building, making with a playful, messy way without worrying about "colouring outside the lines".
So, this year, I'm actively working on improving several things concurrently. I'm learning about how to get healthier from several different angles (mental, physical, relational, spiritual, energetic, and maybe more ways I can't think how to express right now).
I'm making progress to improve my finances through learning from people who have and make far more money than me (but who still display the behaviours of kind, caring, ethical humans).
I'm focused on learning new business skills so I can take my business to the next level, including things like how to build a brand new website, how to write more effective sales copy, how to write mini books on the topic I teach the most (Human Design), and so much more.
I'm also endlessly improving my craft as a coach and space holder for other people as I help them move through sometimes heavy or challenging 'stuff'.
I know there's more that I'm working on improving this year but this post is long enough already :P So let me wrap up by coming back to the part of the Joan's prompt I don't know that I've fully addressed:
Describe the situation, reasoning, and how you intend to set plans into motion.
The situation is that my health, my finances and my business are not where I would like them. They're okay but they have a lot of room for improvement. And I know, by letting go even more of the goal of 'perfection' I free up so much energy to focus on making progress instead.
So, between having clear outcomes that I'm working towards in each of these areas, the use of a daily habit tracker to motivate me to do the important things every day most days and continuing to 'watch' my own patterns of behaviours and 'listen' to my unconscious beliefs as they come out of my mouth, I know I'll be able to move forward on all the things one step at a time.
And if I've learned anything in the last 12 months that I would wish to share with any woman (or... human) it's that as long as you have:
- A clear goal, and
- Keep taking one step at a time consistently towards that goal
you'll probably get there faster than you were expecting.
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