Okay, I want to sound a bit harsh, but trust me it's for your own good. 😍
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As Some ladies think it is only their beautiful faces and pretty figure that is needed to attract a man and keep a relationship. Yes, your beauty may attract him but when he gets closer to you, what do you dish out? Is it wisdom that comes out of your mouth or nonsense?
I'm not talking about your elocution or your smooth accent of English language this time around. I'm talking about your inner virtues. What kind of values do you carry? What is your uniqueness? What special qualities make you totally different from other ladies? Are you a giver and a mutiplier or you are the type that constantly demands? Do you talk about building your personal vision and achieving your goals or you are the type that keeps jumping around looking for how to get the latest I-phone or wears in town?
For some ladies, they can demand money even on the very first day they meet a guy. Such ladies believe that men are automatic ATMs and a means to living large! Each time they meet a guy, all they do is to ask and ask till their joy is full!😮🙄.
Why would you keep doing that for goodness sake?! It shows that you are so cheap and you are sure going to become a total liability in future.
Dear sis, are you an asset or a liability?
My lady! If you are in a relationship and ALL you know how to say is: "sub for me, send me money, I want a new bag, my shoes are worn, my phone is spoilt so I need a better one, I must get the latest bone straight, help me recharge my phone, I haven't eaten since morning, take me out this weekend, I feel like eating shawarma tonight, E don tey wey I chop suya, babe buy me 🍕 pizza nah, I need 40 k for one owambe 👗 dress next month, my powder has finished, buy me cold stone 🍨, I want a very big cake for my coming birthday, my mom's birthday is around the corner and she needs a new dress, my gas don finish ooooh... etc," my dear, you are a liability to your fiance.
Now, if the guy by fate or by luck meets another lady one day, probably a casual friend at work or at church and he began to see a different person entirely from who you are.
The lady is the type that says: "How's your business? You should try this method to impress your boss, instead of buying a big cake for your birthday, why don't you use that money to register your business with Corporate Affairs Commission. I'm planning to use my salary savings this year to organize a programme to empower young ladies, I sent my savings last month to my mom in the village in order to boost her business, I can still manage to wear this dress to sister Sola's wedding right? I heard someone is selling a land at a give away price, do you mind buying? I am into laundry business too, please tell your friends to patronize me...etc."
Then our brother starts getting drawn to the new lady who is more of an asset unlike you. He has developed constant headaches because of your incessant demands, but whenever he is with this lady, he gained something tangible and she didn't demand anything from him. She is not even as beautiful as you are and yet the guy dumped you and went for her. She is not the type that would be shouting "sub for me" up and down. She is a "Proverbs 31" woman whose husband's heart can safely trust in her.
So, when the young man told you that the relationship was over, you started crying and running from one pastor to another to help you rebuke the evil spirits from your mother's family who wouldn't allow you to marry on time!Really?!😮 You are your own problem dear, the earlier you know that, the better for you.
My dear sister, be a beautiful woman but not the one without sense. A queen is not a beggar. Be a Queen👑 so that your King👑 can find you. It's so simple! Be a woman of substance.
When you enter a man's life, his achievements should double up and not the other way round. Your beauty may attract a man but it's your sense that will keep him. I hope you understand.😊😊😊
And I hope we are still friends. We are right???