Hello friends of this community; I know this may be uncomfortable to hear, but it is very likely that you do not have a good opinion of yourself and it is not a coincidence, we live in a time where self-esteem is on the floor, where insecurity is disguised as perfection on social networks and where looking good is more important than being good, but you know what is most ironic of all that the people who try to get attention the most are often the ones who are suffering the most inside, because yes, the one who needs attention the most is almost always the one who is most broken inside and that pain does not appear out of nowhere.

Most of the time it is born from how you see yourself from that internal voice that repeats what others said about you and that is what we call self-image and it is formed with each experience with each word you received, with each criticism, with each comparison and the problem is that that image you have of yourself can be completely distorted, think of your self-image as if it were a mirror depending on the angle, the type of mirror, the reflection can change, you can see yourself taller, wider or simply different from how you really are.

So the same thing happens with the way you see yourself, you are not always seeing the truth, you are seeing a version influenced by what you have experienced, by what others said about you, if you already tend to see yourself in a negative way and on top of that you add the opinions of people who only know a part of you, it is completely normal that you end up with a distorted image and the worst thing is that your mind, like that of many, gives much more value to what you did wrong than to everything you did right.

You punish yourself for your mistakes, but you rarely recognize your successes and that is where the real problem begins, when you let small failures define everything you are, forgetting all the good that you also have inside, we were educated to comply, not to shine, since we were little we were taught to do things as they should, to follow rules, to behave well, to not cause problems. They applauded us when I obeyed, but not when we were creative, spontaneous, different, they told us what to do, but not They taught us to discover who we were.

They taught us not to fail, to be afraid of making mistakes, to avoid ridicule, not to try if we weren't sure it would be perfect, instead of telling us if you fall, learn and try again, they made us feel ashamed for stumbling; Instead of motivating us to try new things, they gave us the idea that making a mistake is a failure and over time that way of thinking stayed within us, so ingrained that we don't even question it, so automatic that when we fail the first thing we do is blame ourselves, as if making a mistake would make us less, but that's not the case.

Falling is part of the process, what makes you strong is not to never fail, but to have the courage to get up every time you do it and today if you find it difficult to recognize yourself, value yourself or believe in yourself it is not because you are weak, it is because you grew up surrounded by a system that taught you to demand a lot of yourself and celebrate yourself little, but that can be unlearned and starts by looking at yourself with new eyes, many teachers, unintentionally or intentionally, took the student with the most difficulties and used it as a warning, if not If you don't study you will end up like him or if you continue like this you will be nobody in life.

And so little by little, many children grew up with that invisible label, "I'm no good," "I'm not good enough," "I'm not going to make it," but it doesn't end there, because when you grow up and enter the world of work the dynamic is often repeated. Rarely does anyone congratulate you for doing things well, for complying, for making an effort to stay late, but if you fail once, "Oh God," yes, if you make a mistake. There are those who are waiting for that moment to point you out to make you feel like you're worthless, many. Bosses and co-workers put themselves on a pedestal, as if being hard on others gives them power, as if putting you down makes them more valuable.

This culture of criticism without empathy becomes so normalized that we no longer question it, what I want you to understand with all this is that no matter how many negative things you have heard about yourself, it does not define who you really are, the only person who really knows you is yourself, you are the person you live with 24 hours a day, so I don't know how you feel today, but take some time to reflect on your life, who I am, who you really are, am I seeing the truth about myself or am I just repeating what others did to me? believe.

If you stop to think about it calmly, you will realize that all those negative things that you believe about yourself do not come from your true essence, you were not born feeling insufficient, defective or believing that you are not worth enough, no child comes into this world with the idea that he is not enough or good enough, we are not born with doubts about our ability, nor with the fear of not being accepted, we learn all of this over time, that erroneous perception of yourself was built little by little, layer upon layer. layer upon layer until it becomes an internal voice that makes you doubt your own worth, so Value and Appreciate yourself.