Hello friends of this great community; Have you ever felt like you're living a life that doesn't suit you? As if inside you know that it is not you at all and even if you try to change something it always drags you back to the same old thing, if you are at that point I understand you, because I know what it feels like to be there, but I also know what it takes to start getting out of there and I am not going to talk to you about Magic formulas, or perfection.

I am going to tell you about reality, about vulnerability, about authenticity and how these two can be your best allies to truly change, I am going to share with you some of the ideas of Carl Rogers, a psychologist that I love because he talks a lot about this, about being you without masks and I am going to bring it down to earth as always so that you can apply it in your daily life.

Before we get into all this, let me tell you a little about who Carl Rogers was, he was an American psychologist who revolutionized therapy in his time with a very different approach, humanistic psychology, he believed that we all have enormous potential within us, a real potential to grow and become our best version and that seems precious to me, because today we talk a lot about being your best version, but he already had this idea when he was developing his theory.

He said that many times what prevents us from becoming that version of ourselves are the conditions that surround us and the beliefs that we internalized throughout our lives, he talked about something he called “The process of becoming a person” in fact one of his books is called exactly that “The process of becoming a person” and in that book he explains that true change only occurs when we allow ourselves to be authentic.

That word that is heard so much today, authenticity, he already mentioned it many years ago and one of his most powerful phrases that marked me a lot is “the curious contradiction is that when I accept myself as I am, then I can change”, think about that, what he means by this is that real transformation does not happen when we fight with who we are, but when we stop fighting against that.

I have already shared it with you in other publications, I spent my adolescence fighting with who I was, I didn't like my personality, I didn't like my body, I didn't like my appearance, I wanted another life, I wanted another body, I felt that all people were better than me, smarter, prettier, with more money, more skills and all of that had me trapped in a constant cycle of frustration and dissatisfaction, I came from a context where I didn't like absolutely anything about myself.

Today I realize how important it was to begin to accept myself, in fact recently some short films went viral, where many people narrate as if they were having coffee with their self from years ago, telling him everything they had achieved, everything they had healed, everything they had conquered, as if saying "Look in the end you achieved it, you became who you dreamed of being" and of course I made my version but on paper for myself, because I really come from that place I mentioned and today I look at my life and although I still have many dreams to fulfill, I am living a reality that I only imagined before.

I also went through moments in which I did not recognize myself, I studied a career in which I did not feel good, I followed a path that was not mine, just because it was the right thing to do, but within all that chaos there was always an internal voice that told me that I had something more to give, that there was a version of me that was freer, more authentic, that wanted to come out, over time I dared to listen to it, to unlearn what I had been taught, to find my own path.

Today after all that path of trial, of error, of fears, of action, of working for myself, I live from what I love, I dedicate myself to what I like to do, and every day I am closer to that version of myself that I always dreamed of, because the change has not happened overnight, not at all, everything has been the result of small brave decisions repeated many times.

One of the mistakes that has frustrated me the most, and this is exactly what we are talking about, is that sometimes we see someone at a stage where they have already advanced and achieved many things, then we start to compare ourselves and start to feel bad without realizing that we are simply comparing our chapter two with someone's chapter 10.

So be careful with that, because right now maybe it's the first time you really question your decisions, maybe it's the first time you ask yourself what value your life has and I understand that feeling in which everything overwhelms you, your past, your beliefs, everything you carry, the things you would like to change and that's okay, you're waking up, you're starting your path and only because of that you're closer to becoming that person that you also dream of being.

And this is just the beginning of the day.