We all have something we wish we could change about ourselves. For me, it’s not my face or my body it’s the way I overthink everything. In this post, I open up about how it’s held me back, though i saw this contest late but i think is what is really affecting me and i have to share just to grow pass it. Maybe you can relate too
I didn’t always see it as a problem. In fact, people used to tell me, “You think deep, you reason well,” and I took it as a compliment. But as I grew older, I started seeing how this same ‘deep thinking’ was stopping me from taking action, making decisions, and enjoying the moment.
I overthink almost everything. Before I post something online, I will write and delete it like 5 times. If someone doesn’t reply my message quickly, I’ll start imagining what I did wrong?If I have an idea, instead of trying it, I’ll start thinking, “What if it fails? What if people don’t like it? What if I’m not ready?” And just like that, the idea dies in me
This habit has cost me a lot. I’ve missed out on opportunities because I waited too long. I’ve doubted myself even when I was clearly capable. I’ve said “no” to things I should’ve said “yes” to jus because I was scared of the unknown. Overthinking makes me live more in my head than in real life.
Sometimes, I envy people who can just try something without thinking too hard. People who make mistakes, laugh, and move on. People who don’t always need to be 100% sure before taking the first step. I want to be more like that.
I’m learning that not everything in life needs to be figured out before you begin. Sometimes, clarity comes from doing. Sometimes, you need to jump first, then figure out how to land. I want to stop doubting myself so much. I want to start trusting my process, even if it’s not perfect.
So, yes oo if I could change one thing, I would change my overthinking. Not to stop thinking completely, but to think just enough and then act. To stop fearing every possible outcome and just take bold steps, even if I make mistakes along the way.
I believe change starts from awareness. And I’m already trying to be more aware when my thoughts are holding me back. I now remind myself often that not every thought is truth. Some are just fear dressed as logic.
I hope this little confession helps someone else feel seen too. Maybe you’re also overthinking something right now posting a blog, applying for a job, learning a new skill. Please, just try. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. It may never come.
Because at the end of the day, life rewards action, not just thoughts.
All pictures are mine
With love
Hamidu yetunde 🧡🩷❤️