Hello friends in Ladies of Hive Community, Greetings from Indonesia to all the great women in this world💕
My post today is to contribute to the writing challenge of ladies of Hive Community Contest #225 by admin @ladiesofhive. As usual there is a topic that must be chosen by the contestants and in this 225th edition I will choose the topic :
2️⃣ What are some personal boundaries that you feel are important to uphold in a relationship? And what are your feelings around independence and togetherness in a relationship?
In my opinion, in every relationship there should be clear boundaries, even if it is a relationship between parents and children, a relationship between husband and wife and other relationships. Why should there be clear boundaries in a relationship? Because with clear boundaries in a relationship, clear norms and regulations will be created in society.
Moreover, we Indonesians who are thick with the culture and customs of various ethnic groups, the boundaries in a relationship are very clear. For example, in a workplace between men and women, there will be clear boundaries on how to treat fellow co-workers of the same sex and the opposite sex. These boundaries are clearly visible especially when someone is married and has a partner, usually other co-workers will keep a certain distance from the opposite sex for fear of being a destroyer of other people's households. This also applies to the boundaries between employees and superiors, there is a culture of mutual respect that we can see in the workplace, of course this is also related to the boundaries of how to behave and speak to superiors.
This limitation is also seen in the family relationship between parents and children, for example a child is prohibited from saying rude and impolite words to parents, children are not allowed to enter the parents' room carelessly and there are many more limitations in the relationship between parents and children. This limitation is actually to create harmony in a family, with the existence of limitations in the family teaches children the importance of independence but can still enjoy beautiful togetherness with other family members.
In addition, in a relationship between husband and wife there must also be boundaries, although these boundaries are not written but usually certain couples have given some conditions before getting married, for example there are clear boundaries between personal money and shared money, there are boundaries in helping the extended family. These boundaries will make a relationship last because it creates a shared responsibility to respect each other's privacy, clear boundaries will also create harmony in the household.
So I think personal boundaries are needed to maintain harmony in a relationship, with personal boundaries, we cannot act as we please because of the norms that apply in our society. Although there are personal boundaries, boundaries will still create independence and togetherness. Everyone will try to improve the quality of themselves, besides that, with personal boundaries it will also create togetherness with family, friends and people we love.
Thank you for reading my post, I hope my friends can support my post.
Best Regard
@umirais