The Mindset that Shaped Me: What Helped Me Thrive as I Grew

Admit it or not, we all believed in one thing while growing up. We have had this mindset that has never changed until now.

Being a child means we are still dependent on our parents or family, and on the lessons they want us to learn about. We always listen to what they are saying and the teachings that they want to root deep in our minds.

I grew up listening to my Mama. I was an obedient child, and I am not ashamed of that. I have done whatever she says up until now. I learned a great deal from her. And she instilled in me the mindset that I have today.

"Use your heart, but not as much as you use your brain."

These were the exact words she told me before. At first, I did not understand its meaning. She kept telling me these words, as if she wanted me to keep them in mind at all times. She is rooting for me to have that kind of mindset.

She succeed. That has been my mindset up until now. I remember when she told me, "Kapag puso ang pinairal mo, matatalo ka" (English translation: if you use your heart, you will lose). There was a message behind that. She wanted me to learn how to protect myself, or limit the things that I will do for love.

Growing up, I have seen the messages behind her teachings. I understood what she wanted me to believe. She wanted me to be prepared for the cruelty of people and the harsh reality of life. I remember the moment when I looked at the mirror and stared at my reflection. I told myself the exact words she said: use your heart, but not as much as you use your brain. I have to be careful with everything and not let my emotions get the best of me.

The mindset I had while growing up was to learn how to think before making a decision. I should strike a balance between using my brain and my heart. My Mama was not wrong at all. I have seen people who regret doing things because they didn't think about the consequences.

I have seen people cry over something simply because they didn't make a careful decision. That is when I realized that people should learn how to balance making decisions based on what their heart says with what their brain thinks carefully. They should go both ways.

Before making a decision, internalize your thoughts and ask yourself questions. Will it make you happy or not? Can you bear the consequences if you fail? Are you ready for it? If you tend to act without careful consideration, it's the right time to reconsider.

Hive Blog No. 181
Date Published: July 23, 2025

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