Rejection hurts a lot, either mentally, physically and emotionally. It makes you to feel sick, sad, doubt yourself and makes you question your worth. Everybody had experienced rejection in one way or the other in life, but is a normal part of life that nobody can escaped it. Though being rejected can be challenging and frustrating, the pain could be intense but is also a chance and an opportunity for one to grow into learning new things or to have another opportunities.
Rejection have made some people to lived an isolated lifestyle, such people became withdrawn and disconnected themselves from associating with other people. Each time you remembered you have been rejected, you will doubt yourself, your abilities and feels disappointed with yourself and other people.
Personally, I was deeply hurt and turned down by someone I love and cared about before. I remembered then during the rejection phase of my life I felt like I have a wound in my heart, I can't even stand the lady who has rejected me back then because I felt I have lost my sense of self worth. I have done all I thought I could possibly do to win her heart and love her all to myself and just to make this lady stay with me in the relationship, but all my efforts to no avail. I have ignored her complaints, nagging attitudes and even accepted to become a second option knowing fully she have another man or boyfriend aside from me. But at the end she broke up with me because of some of her personal reasons. I felt being rejected by this lady because I can't afford the things she wanted or I couldn't possibly do what the other guy has been doing to her.
I also felt being rejected by not getting a job I have hoped for, despite all my efforts and endurance during staying for days and standing for so many hours on the line or que during 2021 Nigeria police recruitment at Makurdi, Benue state of Nigeria. I have passed all the screening process, test and interviews and even gone for medical checkup which is the last stage before going for six (6) months training. The final lists came out and my name wasn't there.
I cried out my heart during those moments and I felt rejected because I have endured hunger waiting on the line for so many hours and sleeping outside of my comfort zone and I have had hoped since I have gotten to the last stage of the recruitment process, I will pass through and go for the training. Those moments of not getting the job I hoped for I could feel a tightening on my chest.
What about being rejected by your friends because you are not longer in their lean or you are not their class anymore since they have gone far ahead of you in academic, social lifestyles, and are doing well financially than you. Because of one's experience on rejection, one can stay lonely, you can feel not being seen or not valued anymore. Each time or everytime you remembered your past of being rejected, it echoes within you and you will start to feel unwanted.
But let me tell you something about rejection experienced I have learned or the truth, as bad or as hurtful as rejection may feels to you, is something everyone has experienced in life. If you have ever been rejected before, that shows you have once taken a risk, you loved or cared even though is wasn't mutual and you have taken a bold step to put yourself out there. You having the ability and strength to do such is not weakness but strength and courage.
And as time goes on, with reflection and care that rejection you have experienced could become a turning point to your growth, self worth, self confidence, self understanding and make a new paths you have not expected in life.
Don't keep dwelling from your past rejection experience anymore, you can be better and succeed this time around if you try it again. Some people refused to take another step after been rejected before but it's not a good thing. In the journey of life, people failed and people succeed as well. Take a bold step today and you will be shock and surprise with the outcome you will see and victory will come through for you.