Have you ever wondered how strong you are emotionally?
Many times we confuse fortitude with bad character, rustiquez, rudeness or slutty, fortitude with “I don't care about anything, or anyone, I only care about me”, and no, in no way strength is measured by the amount of bad fleas we have.
True personal strength does not lie in imposing oneself on others, but in recognizing the other as someone who, like one, has lights and shadows.
When the masks fall off, you start to see people as they are, with their lights and their shadows. You learn to give everyone the value they really deserve, without idealizations or false expectations. Because only then do you understand who adds and who subtracts, who stays and who just passes. And so, little by little, you begin to take better care of your time and your heart, learning that not everything deserves your energy, nor your dedication.
That is why we are strong when we set healthy limits in our relationships, and we base our bonds on commitment, loyalty and love, from reciprocity, staying with those who value us and turning our backs on anyone who rejects us without being submissive, without staying in the complaint.
Personal strength is about knowing.
How to achieve this personal strength? Staying firm in your convictions, without falling into stubbornness.
This is my formula and I am totally convinced that it works. Examine everything and keep the good, so at every moment, every experience even in crisis or very adverse situations... we are the only ones responsible and caretakers of our mental and emotional health. And yes... Do they want to see you fall? Well, let them sit and wait. You stay busy, triumphing over your own fears and complexes.
Learn to listen to the voices of the people who encourage you, support you, who propose solutions and alternatives, or who give you constructive criticism because they believe in you, and far from holding you back, it drives you to continue.
Undoubtedly, it is very common to feel afraid of what they will say, to feel afraid of rejection, and more so in these times of social networks where “the norm” is that we all show “perfect, beautiful, spiritual, sinless, moral and ethical lives”. Hahah nothing is further from reality.
Look, fear is one of the most debilitating emotions a human being can feel: the higher the level of fear, the higher the level of self-betrayal.
The only way to change what makes us bad is for you to be the one who moves. Take action!... It can be hard, I just think about all those times when I thought I couldn't and yet I took another step.
That's how I started to get ahead. Every time I block what is not, and they try to fuck up my life, I renew myself, I do it again because I keep trying, at my own pace, as I can, but I do it. Because every little step counts and it can be the start of something bigger
Janitze 💐
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL