Hidden negotiation ...

Really, I struggle daily with complaining and that feeling of guilt that adorns it, it's a mixture of yes... pero...no , and I always tell myself "enough is enough", because this generates a lot of anxiety.

Most of the time it happens to me for not complying with the social mandate, that many times when I complain, I feel that it goes through me like a taco in the throat, it even causes me dryness to the point that I'm afraid of choking because of worry, and constant (moral) value judgments of the fucking question: Why me?, it's a bummer because of that guilt feeling that comes with it.

And of course, so much complaining "does prevent progress", in a positive way. Why? Simple generates a rigid, structured and closed mind, and that's when the collapse comes and things don't flow in a positive way because you DON't look at the opportunities, and if you see them you do it from lack, then this takes us away from our goals, dreams and aspirations, which are typical of our day to day.

As far as possible, he no longer put me off, nor do I adapt to what others want from me, I just follow my impulses.

I also believe that everything in its healthy balance is better. Because there are still beautiful chapters to live.

In addition, I have also learned to negotiate and this is key for complaints, because being clear avoids many conflicts, before the complaint. Always underneath what one does there is always a hidden negotiation. When one does not want something, one does not do it, but if there is something hidden here and now, that is when the complaint is letting me know that I am accepting to settle for a negotiation and that by the way I do not make timely decisions.

I never forget that we won't always be in the storm; that the sun is coming up again and that without me, you wouldn't be who you are... Your intuition. I'm not smarter than anyone else, but the life of the asshole is very hard.

When I don't want a hidden negotiation, a well-hidden complaint, I simply say what he understood, he understood!!!, and I do not accept, but the action.

I also think that the one who complains the most is because he is idle asking and commenting on things hidden from fallacies, beliefs, assumptions of right and wrong.

Recently a neighbor of my condo asked me what to do about the complaint, when it comes to taking care of someone who depends only on her? How is that negotiated? I replied: No one depends on you, because when we truly love, as is the case with your relative, we are clear, simple and loving.

That thing we don't want to see, that thing we negotiate by playing dumb. For example: Have you ever been in a relationship: maybe quietly to be good? It's something like that. Total!!! There is always a conscious or unconscious intention... It's our personal scam.

Hidden negotiations or under the table from the unconscious or from the secret, work the same in both cases.

It happens to me, I set limits and the other part does not accept, and no ! ... is no, they want to force me to accept and carry situations, people by force. Too many hidden agendas, symbiosis, manipulation, lack of decision making.

That's enough, that's enough...Finally, the salvageable.

Janitze 🌹