Love never bullies the other person, many relationships have bullies, an example is; I as a man can share my problems with you, pour out my heart to you, rant and complain all I want but when it gets to your turn to be vulnerable with me, speak your mind and complain and rant like I do , then it becomes disturbance, that's bully and selfishness not love.
RE: False steps, in quicksand...