However, not all of us think the same way, that's why instead of facing the situation they start inventing phrases that today have been immortalized, for me they are nothing more than excuses and a cliché to end what they don't dare. If we are in a relationship and we are told one of these famous phrases, we must flee without remedy, because we already know which is the way.
"It's not you, it's me", is the typical phrase to tell us that they are failing and that they have other interests. I was told like this, "I'm the one with the problem, not you". When I asked him if he had another person he said no, obviously I didn't believe him. Eventually I found out about the other person.
"I need time, I'm confused", no one gets confused out of the blue or for nothing, clearly they are telling us that there is another interest involved and he is not confused, just not able to say goodbye. That time is not to think, decide, far from it, but to give free rein to another relationship while supposedly he is thinking and we are waiting, waiting for what, we are wasting our time. In case it goes badly, then he will remember that we exist, and if so, is that fair, of course not. Years ago a friend told me that his girlfriend had told him that she was confused, I told him that no one is confused about anything, that surely there was someone else. Soon after, we found out about the wedding.
Once I was asked for time, not because I was confused, but supposedly to solve a family and economic problem. Later I found out that the problem had a woman's body and name. I was very young and inexperienced, and yes, I was waiting, when I called him to know how things were going, he told me not to harass him, while he was showing off with her everywhere.
The truth is that it is not worth staying in a relationship where only one of the two wants to stay, that is not a relationship. It has to be two of us pulling the rope to the same side, otherwise, we are alone on the team. Emotional attachments block what we should really see, we begin to justify the other and see things where there are none, in short, what we want to see. Something or someone has to make us react, we have to remember self-love, recognize, accept and break definitively with what does not add up, what subtracts happiness and hurts us.
"If there is another person who wants you, listen to him or her"
There are more phrases to follow with excuses. Once I was told "you have nothing wrong with you, you deserve better than me, there are other fish in the water". Yes, I am the best, but not for him, and me saying to myself "I thought I did something wrong or that I have something wrong and I don't, what a relief", how deluded. In the days before he said these phrases, I prepared the ground by saying out of the blue "I don't want to hurt you", if he does, it's like slowly killing the other person, it's even more painful.
Adding another phrase to the repertoire, that same boy of "you have nothing wrong with you", told me "well, why don't you listen to that man who is looking pretty", and he said it to me while in a relationship. Whoever loves you does not motivate you to go with someone else.
In short, these are signs, they are clear, when they appear, run away. I do not give time because it is wasted time and it is a total lack of loyalty to the other person, for me it is a clear act of cowardice. I don't ask for time either, I have always been clear and sure when I don't want to be in a place and there is nothing worse than dragging my feet in that kind of situation. As a cousin told me about "I need time", "to be hanging, it is better to fall". With this phrase I say goodbye.
Thank you for reading
All photos are original, taken with my Xiaomi Redmi 9 phone.
