Self-esteem and significant others
Greetings hivers-readers, last Wednesday July 21 took place the program Coordenadas de Bienestar: Triada Esencial, of the @holos-lotus Community, where @jaineth addressed the topic of Self-esteem, Self-image and Self-value. It was a very emotional and enriching meeting.
Thinking about these three aspects, I would like to share with you some reflections that I have had for some time in relation to this subject.
I particularly think that self-esteem as a process that affirms or denies personal worth necessarily passes through the relationship with others. These others are the significant or non-significant people with whom we interrelate.
As we are social beings, our meanings, beliefs, imaginaries, are built from contact with the environment, with others, who reaffirm, validate or deny our self-concepts. They would be our mirrors.
From the very moment of gestation, the process of constructing our value as persons begins. Are we the product of a loving relationship? Are we desired by our parents? Did the pregnancy follow a healthy course or were there complications of social origin?
In the course of childhood and adolescence, an endless number of situations arise that shape our personality, in addition to the biological factors that we have as a result of the genetic processes inherent to the union of our parents.
Contact with classmates in high school and in the groups in which we participate, together with social networks and the media, mold in one way or another our way of being, thinking, feeling and perceiving reality. From all this mixture, our beliefs and attitudes towards ourselves, towards others and towards the things that surround us are built.
On the other hand, the eventualities, the unforeseen events of life can affect the way we value ourselves. The loss of loved ones or experiencing catastrophic situations can change the way we see ourselves. Hence the importance of having a social support network that allows us to move forward despite the circumstances.
Reflecting on this whole experiential process, I think that self-esteem is a dialectical process between the individual and his or her environment. It is not a process that takes place only from within the person, distanced from others, telling oneself or feeling important or valuable. It implies a feedback between the self and others, mediated by the circumstances of life and the sociohistorical and geographical aspects of the moment we are living.
In the meeting held in the Coordenadas de Bienestar program I felt and perceived how the positive energy flowed among all of us who participated, resulting in a vibrational linkage in the direction of the three points touched by @jaineth.
From my point of view, self-esteem, self-image and self-worth are dialectically intertwined with others and the environment. In the movie The Castaway, this is more or less visualized. Emotional and psychological stability has to do with the presence of the significant other. If it does not exist, we create it by giving life to inanimate things or through imagination, where we create an unreal world.
I thank @miriannalis for this amazing initiative and the opportunity to participate in the Wellness Coordinates Program on the server's Hispavoz Channel on @Hispapro's Discord.
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