I have spoken with many people in my life, and I have gained conversational experience that has improved not only the way I speak, but also the way I think. For example, I have realized that people who talk too quickly or are in a hurry to express themselves rarely think before speaking.
People who are slow talkers, or who prefer not to speak at all, are more likely to be deep thinkers. Every human being goes through introspection; sometimes we think too much or talk too much.
People need to express themselves, whether through thoughts or words, and this is how we introspect. When our minds are unable to carry the weight of our thoughts, we are forced to think aloud, which we typically do by talking to ourselves.
I used to be a talker in my twenties, of course, because I was a high school teacher and had to talk, but I never did much inner reflection; I spent more time talking, leaving little or no room for thought.
I must admit that my inability to perceive things had far-reaching consequences. For example, I did many things spontaneously and randomly without thinking about whether or not I should do them, and they all had serious consequences.
However, at the age of 29, I noticed a shift in my behavior: I started talking less and thinking more.
However, I was still not doing enough.
People need to think more; the thought process that leads to talking is frequently undermined in people's attempts to communicate.
I have met a lot of people on social media who talk and take pride in insulting others, which is due to their lack of communication skills. More than 80% of people lack verbal intelligence.
When attempting to communicate, most people succumb to their emotions, ego, pride, financial status, foolishness, or complete lack of respect, and these are the worst people to ever try to reason with. Life is complex, and we must often delve deeply into our thoughts to grasp the essence of effortful communication.
When I was doing a diploma in college, I met some really nice people, and we only got along because we had similar thought processes and communication patterns. I was the overthinker in the group, so I was the quietest of them all.
Silence is a form of communication, and unless you understand this, you may not be a deep thinker. Many people believe that silence indicates weakness or an inability to say anything, but this is completely false.
Thinkers are more dangerous than talkers because the thought process involves endless deciphering and discovering. From two years ago to the present, I have experienced the most reflective period of my life.
I consider the consequences of potential actions even when there are none. I try to imagine possible scenarios in my head, especially in situations where I shouldn't, because the absolute state of normalcy and calmness scares me.
This is why I prefer not to manifest negative possibilities by discussing them; instead, I keep them in mind, reject them within myself, and continue to prepare for any type of uncertainty situation.
I have done crazy things in the past that I am not proud to admit, but I realized that I was fortunate to avoid the potential consequences of these actions. Sometimes I look at myself and wonder, "What if that action had consequences?".
This is why I tend to think before I act or speak. I like to weigh my actions and anything I need to say because we can never "undo" something we have said; it is been said, and whether it is intentional or not, the mind has said what the mind wants. Sometimes we do not mean to hurt people with what we say, but we do not consider how the receiver will perceive it and whether it was the right or wrong thing to say.
Because I spend so much time thinking, permuting, perceiving, reflecting, and analyzing, I can almost always predict the outcome of many situations. The downside is that it has made me slower.
I am no longer as vibrant as I once was, and I can not speak as quickly or confidently. I would rather think than talk, so I avoid situations that force me to speak unless it is necessary.
Unless it is a conversation with a few people I know in real life, a conversation at a mall or stall, or discussing business because the bills need to be paid. On the other hand, when I speak, I do so with substance; even if it is a small amount, it carries weight because of the thought process that must have occurred prior to the statement being made.
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