Relationships. I'm not an expert on the topic, but I sure do have a lot to say about it. It's all messed up. And, for the record, I'm talking about the intimate ones - those that involves dating and courting.
What we want and what we feel are two different things. In today's world, they are intertwined. We will choose the former without hesitating. When it backfires, the ladies will sing the "Men are scum" anthem, while the men recite the "she has nothing to offer than sex" poem. Then, the audience looks for who to blame. Like I said, it's messed up. The government won't fix it. We can't fix it. It is what it is. You will have to fuck all odds to go with your heart.
Tina, that girl that makes you laugh; you can't go a day without talking to her. You are always yourself around her and she makes you want to be a better person. You won't date her because she has tribal marks and a flat ass. You tell people you only like her as a friend. "She's not my type," you say. Of course we know who your type is. That pretty lady with a perfect bum and firm breast, right?
Yes, Mary is every man's dream. You tell yourself it was love at first sight. You are ready to do anything to make her yours. You can't wait to post her pictures on social media. All the wooing techniques you mastered have been used on her. You spent money and time trying to get her. She doesn't make you smile like Tina, but you will still pick her without battling a lid.
Do you want Mary because you want to show off or you want to touch all those places that made you pick interest in the first place? Sure, you want your ex to know you moved on; you want your friends to call you badoo; you want your mum to tell you you've chosen well, so choosing her will fix it all. I'm not judging you. There's a big chance I'll pick Mary, too. It's just messed up.
Mary likes Bode. They've been friends since he repaired her phone for free. The phone repair might have started their friendship, but it didn't keep it. Bode is intelligent and funny. He is a good listener, but lacks other things Mary wants in her man. So he stays in the friendzone, while Mary selects from a list of other guys in her DM. Yes, Bode isn't her type. You have to be rich, good looking and with six packs to qualify. Bode only have the looks, and that isn't enough. After a lot of shakara, Mary chose you. Although, your packs is just two, but the money in your bank account can fill up for the other four.
Two months into the relationship, you met Anita. Anita is the upgraded version of Mary. You experienced another love at first sight. Then you are left with two options; it's either you cheat on Mary or you end things with her. Whatever choice you make, she will recite the "scum" anthem and you will reply with your "sex" poem.
I've met people that believe there's nothing like love. Trust me, they won't lose in an argument. Well, attaching conditions to love someone is just proving them right.
Let's talk about sex. It's vital in every relationship and in some part of the world like where I come from, we don't see it as normal. A lady feels she sacrificed a lot by having sex with you. I know some guys would argue that it's nothing, but if sex is the only thing you wanted from her, then she's right. Some of them wise up and ask for money in return and you slutshame them even after paying for it.
Okay. Sex isn't the only thing you wanted from her, right? Even though your Johnson do the talking when you are alone with her, you still want her to be useful in other aspects. She can't give you business ideas if she doesn't know anything about business. Oh! You didn't realize she studied law. She should suddenly have a business sense to prove she's not just a sex tool? If you liked her well enough without conditions, you won't be expecting her to do what she can't do. You will know her strength. You will know how she makes you feel. Sex will be secondary in the relationship. It won't be why you asked her out. Who provides more financially won't be an issue. Yes, you fucked all odds to be with her. Everything should go smoothly. None of you will think sex or money is what kept the relationship.
Oh! I've said too much. Don't mind me. I'll probably go into that lady's DM today. That lady with the eight figure.
@afolwalex writes.
Incase you are struggling to understand the meaning of these words:
Shakara - Show off.
Badoo - A bad guy.