Hola amigos de Hive, hoy quiero comentarles desde mi punto de vista y poca experiencia como madre de un pre-adolescente lo que es este cambio, para mi ha sido una experiencia bastante temprana ya que mi hijo Fernando solo tiene 8 años, pero según estudios médicos su cerebro siempre estará 3 años por encima de su edad, a lo que sería aproximadamente 11 años y digo "aproximadamente" porque tiene algunos comportamientos de 14 años.
Hello friends of Hive, today I want to tell you from my point of view and little experience as a mother of a pre-adolescent what this change is, for me it has been a fairly early experience since my son Fernando is only 8 years old, but according to studies Doctors your brain will always be 3 years older than your age, which would be approximately 11 years and I say "approximately" because you have some behaviors of 14 years.
Últimamente su comportamiento desafiante, su tono de voz elevado y su desinterés por la escuela me han estado volviendo loca literalmente hablando, pues Fernando siempre ha sido un niño tranquilo, muy bien portado y estudioso, al principio mi reacción fue demostrarle quien manda e imponer autoridad, a lo que el respondió casi de la misma manera, decidí no desgastarme de esa forma y utilizar un poco de psicología, hable con el en muchas oportunidades y le hice entender que me lastimaba con su comportamiento, que me ponía triste ver que ya no era mi nene tierno, cariñoso, educado y estudioso de siempre.
Lately, his challenging behavior, his high tone of voice and his lack of interest in school have literally been driving me crazy, because Fernando has always been a quiet boy, very well behaved and studious, at first my reaction was to show him who is in charge and impose authority , to which he responded almost in the same way, I decided not to wear myself out in that way and to use a little psychology, I spoke with him many times and made him understand that he hurt me with his behavior, that it made me sad to see that he no longer He was my tender, affectionate, educated and studious boy as always.
Esto lo hizo reaccionar bastante, aún tiene en algunas ocasiones ciertas malas actitudes y de inmediato acudo a sentarme y hablar con él, preguntarle si algo le molesta, si le sucede algo y obviamente le recuerdo que me lastima con su mala actitud. Esta situación me hace entender que no siempre la solución está en imponerse y hacer ver quien manda.. Nuestros hijos a parte de mano firme necesitan de alguien que los ame, los escuche, los entienda, los haga entender y los corrija, con amor y disciplina se pueden lograr mejores resultados. Espero este Post les sea de mucha ayuda. Hasta pronto!
This made him react a lot, he still has certain bad attitudes on some occasions and I immediately go to sit down and talk to him, ask him if something bothers him, if something happens to him and obviously I remind him that he hurts me with his bad attitude. This situation makes me understand that the solution is not always to prevail and show who is in charge. Our children, apart from a firm hand, need someone who loves them, listens to them, understands them, makes them understand and corrects them, with love and discipline can achieve better results. I hope this Post is very helpful. See you soon!