It's funny how some people seem to make you feel like a fool for doing good sometimes or make you feel used and discouraged to do more. Which has literally made many people stop having pity on people, and then you end up calling many of them names for that one step they took of not helping a person.
Meanwhile, you don't even have an idea of what could have been the cause of the whole thing. I remember very well how I had an experience of trying to help a friend of mine who was an orphan. His parents died, and he had no one to help him. His uncles and aunty always had a way of maltreating him after he lost his parents in an accident.
He was always feeling down and depressed. I was always trying my possible best to see to it that he wasn't left alone most times because I've been in a situation where I felt all alone, and I know how depressing it can be. You always just have these crazy thoughts of wanting to do something crazy to yourself.
So I was always trying in my own power to see how I could help him and all of that. But at some point, I came to realize that I can't keep doing this to this guy, so it doesn't look like I'm always being the one that has to come to his rescue always. So I determined deep down in me to help him by finding a well-paying job for him at least so he could sort out some personal needs himself and not always have a reason to run to me. I felt that's what anyone will do for someone they really love and care for, so he does be a burden.
I majorly did this because I know deep down that I'm a human being and there are chances of me getting tired of wanting to help at some point in time. In life, there are always ups and downs. If I don't help him find his way out to work for himself, a time will definitely come that he will definitely need my help, and I might not be able to help. Not because I'm wicked, but because I can't always be there for everybody. I've also got my demons to fight with. There's no one without a problem.
There are times where I literally just have to be focused on myself, and that's being selfish, as many will say. But it's normal for us to be selfish as a person because that's human nature for you. I wanted to make sure he was also useful for himself and not always dependent.
So I decided to bring him onboard to where I was working then so he could earn something for himself after several trials of looking for a job for him. But he was quite lazy to work, always complain, and not ready to endure at all, and the worst thing he did that got me quite pissed was when he started comparing what I, who have been working there for the past few years, earn to what he earns.
It's just quite painful sometimes that some people don't even know the work you put into getting to where you are today. Many people want to make money but are never ready to work. Probably they assume that the money just comes and meets you in your comfort zone without you doing anything. Sometimes, you have to discomfort yourself for comfort at the end of the tunnel. Because nothing good comes easy.
It was quite hard for me at first to bring this guy onboard to work at where I work then because I really don't like it when you know how my in and out transactions are in most cases because I feel it should be a private thing for individuals. My workplace was a place like the blockchain, where you see everything concerning a person's account. The transaction and earnings.
So it was quite hard for me to have been able to overlook that and bring him in to work. I wasn't happy with the way things were going, so I decided to call him as my brother to talk to him one-on-one. He then picked me as his enemy because of that and started telling everyone bad about me just when I went on a break from work because I had something to attend to at home.
I came back and started hearing a whole lot of things this guy said about me, and then tears dropped from my eyes, and I remembered the saying that states that "it's not always healthy to help people that surround you sometimes." I was so pained about the whole thing and couldn't even say anything.
Because I'm the kind of person that really doesn't like talking when I'm angry to avoid any form of saying what I can't take back. Like my mom will always say, it's better to be quiet when angry than to say something you can't take back. So I decided to stay quiet and not say a word.
Guess what? Just by doing that, many assumed everything he said about me was true. But then, with time, people started seeing his true color and knew who he really was. But before they could find out who he really was, I already quit working there just for the sake of my peace and happiness.
He used that to gain more attention from people at my workplace. Only a few people that were very close to me were the only ones that got to know what really happened. And after I quit working there, he got my space after awhile and was earning what I was earning formally. But he couldn't maintain the fake him and was not always being able to work like me.
They came looking for me after that time to plead with me for the whole thing that happened and asked if I was still interested in working with them, and I declined the offer just for my own sanity and happiness. There's never a better feeling than making people realize things for themselves.
I was so happy when they realized the whole thing themselves without me getting to explain. Because I never saw a need to keep explaining to people because what I've come to notice about human beings generally is that the more you try to explain, the more you want to add salt and pepper to the story to make it sweet.
I wasn't ready to do that, so I never tried explaining the actual thing that happened to anyone. I was hurt about the whole thing because I was only trying to help him, and he then turned it into making me regret my action because, at that point in time, that job was all I had to survive the previous problem I was fighting with.
I really did work my ass out to get to where I was. So seeing someone just come from nowhere to take my space was quite painful and hard to deal with. I really did promise myself not to help people any more. But guess what? I've got a good heart that can't just stop doing good. Because that's not who I am.
If I'm in a position to help someone, I still do. But the only thing that changed is the length I go for people, except if you prove yourself worth. People forget the good you do for them easily. You will only find rare people who still value the good you do for them.
Summary
People will always do you bad, but you should always try not to judge other people by your past experience with another person.
Try in your little way to render assistance to people and look away for your own good. This generation doesn't have a memory of the good you've done for them.
They are only concerned about the one they are getting from you at that point, and after that, that's the end .
Thank you for taking the time to go through my post. I hope you were able to learn something from it. This post was inspired by the #inleo community and also serves as my entry to the #septemberinleo prompt Day 2