Sometimes I feel that I am only rotating at a spot despite the effort I make on a daily basis. A lot of thoughts ran through my mind, questioning my own ability.
It became worse when a friend recently asked me a particular question that concerns my life goals, and I gave her the answer; her response was quite demoralizing, and it convinced me that indeed, I am not doing enough. I have been stagnant; if not, I see most of my friends making it big, showcasing their progress on social media. These will be the thoughts well-occupied in my mind, and to say that I have been hard on myself is an understatement.
I have fantasized about what my life will look like and kept working hard, but sometimes it feels like I am doing nothing significant. This feeling can be terrible and affects my emotions most of the days. No one wants to remain stagnant in life; if not, we wouldn't be observing all the bustles and hustles of life each day to make ends meet.
Sometimes I feel like having a superpower to command a lot of things to happen just so fast without much delay any longer. If wishes were horses indeed. However, I have learned that whatever we are determined to fight against starts with our mind. We have to be determined first in leaving a negative thought, and then the solution will be closer.
So whenever the feeling of not doing enough overtakes me, whenever I feel that no matter how much effort I put in, it just doesn’t feel like enough, I do not hesitate to fight some negative mindset; however, a few tips I will discuss below have been ways I manage such situations.
The first thing I do is really take some time and look closely into my life activities and my progress so far. Are there really any changes in progress? Am I better than yesterday or last month before judging myself wrongly? Or being so hard on myself unnecessarily? Once I can ascertain this, then the next step is to fight comparison.
If I should be sincere to myself, then I should be able to accept that comparing myself to my friends are the root cause of the negative mindset I develop most times concerning myself and it gives me the reason to keep telling myself that indeed, I am stagnant in life. Come to think of it, there are lots of my mates who haven't gotten to the stage where I am today, and they are still alive and thriving. I will remind myself that destiny differs, and as long as I am not sleeping expecting magic to happen, I will keep working hard with a positive mindset and hoping to achieve my life goals. I think it's natural for some people to be better than us and for us to be better than others as well.
The most important thing is not to dwell on our comfort zone but to keep striving for the best version of our lives.
Finally, bathing myself with inspiring stories of some people who have been in a similar situation before they break through has proven to be a game changer for me. It's soulful; it's motivating.
This post was inspired by the #inleo community in collaboration with the clean planet community prompt and my entry to the #februaryinleo monthly topic Day 22.Please check out the prompt to get involved.
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