Everytime in life we always want to be the best in everything we do, and most of the times we think we are doing too much, sometimes we think our efforts are not enough to achieve our goals.
One thing we as human being do that always break us down is we try to please other people, most especially in the relationship side we do our best and everything for them thinking we are doing enough and they are recognizing our efforts but at the end of the day,they always turn us down saying we are not doing enough.
Sometimes we really don't know the value of something till we loose it. l have so many real life experiences l would like to share, but l will give just two, l started washing my clothes at 7 years old because of that l started doing house chores at a very early age, while doing this chores l will be so happy because l wanted to please my family l wanted to make them happy that l always keep everywhere tidy.
This went on for a very long period of time, until one day l noticed something l always keep everywhere neat but the day l don't due to tiredness of wanting to rest they start complaining forgetting all the things l've done before, they make it look as if l haven't been doing anything in house since, sometimes l would even get scolded during the process l would cry.
Until one day thinking about the issue l said to myself l won't be trying to please anybody again because no matter how hard l try they will continue saying l don't do anything in the house, since all my efforts is not enough l will do my best and leave the rest, till l finally left the house to school that was when they started feeling my impact in the house, due to that most of the times l would travel back home just so l could help them that was when they started giving me compliment, praising me. So most of the times when we feel we are not doing enough we should try harder we are really doing our best.
My other experience was at school l had this coursemate that is not just my coursemate but also my close friend, but the issue l had with her was that she wasn't serious academically. l was more of like the serious one between the both of us, l really value the friendship a lot that l always want to do everything she tells me to do for her academically, l would do her assignments even go to her house to help her clean her room but at some point l started getting affected by this negatively l stopped having time for myself even to read because everything was always about her until exam finally came.
I got prepared really well for the first paper, that l even thought she also prepared l didn't even know she was busy with her boyfriend all these while that she didn't even bother reading depending on me to give her answers on the examination day.
Finally the exam started she sat close to me, We were instructed to answer 5 questions so l answered 3 remaining 2, meanwhile she was copying from me when the invigilator noticed she was copying from my work l had to face the penalty for the action due to that the invigilator collected my script leaving hers and telling me to leave the hall immediately. I left crying because it was a 3 unit course, when she came out after copying from other people l thought she was going to sympathize with me but rather she started laughing at me without any feeling of remorse. I cried and told her after everything l've done for you this is how you repay me ,you implicate me at the exam all and this is all you could do, she shouted immediately saying l haven't done anything worth friendship for her that all my efforts are not enough so she wouldn't count it because it's worthless. I was shocked at that point l deleted her number in front of her and told her not to text or call me again and that was how the friendship ended. But glory be to God when result came out l got an AB l was so happy and l learnt my lesson.
So in conclusion do your best and leave the rest, don't try to please anybody or putting effort to please anybody because human beings can never be satisfied no matter what we do to please them.
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