It hurts so much to help people, and they will turn it as evil against you, a big shoe I have been into. I borrowed my friend money to start up a business, he promised to refund in two, years time, but I insisted it should be in three years time so that he can be productive with the money without a collateral.
I feel that was enough good from my side. Borrowing isn't my thing, more especially to friends, when it has to do with people very close to me. I also believe it is always going to be slammed to issues, instead I give and don't expect them to pay me back. When I give, I openly tell the people, I am not loaning you the money, it is my little support.
But this friend came when I didn't have enough, and I couldn't allow him to leave, no matter how difficult it was. So, I decided to split my accounts in two, to make sure he started up a business of his own.
I even gave him a business dividends to get goods from my suppliers, took him across my business boundaries.
All because I want him to succeed, I can't give him the fish forever, I am a man who believes in the adage that says, show me how to finish and don't give me the fish. I have gone through my line business so deeply; I have gone to river to see the secret; of finishing and the difference of give and teaching someone too. So I thought it was time for me to start taking the responsibility of teaching people, which I started with him.
Those who give finish doesn't want other people's progress. So I took him in. On the grands I have a brother in him. Business and friendship has nothing in common, that's to say, our pleasure and emotions should stay clearly of business matters.
If he had come to me, to asked for help and didn't use the world to borrow, I would give him money, believing he has a part to make it up. In this case, both the shop, renting, equipments and business registration with business organisations I did all that for.
I wasn't expecting him to come bow before me , of course I am not God; I did all of those because I could and I as said I thought it was time to link people up.
James, disappointed me big time, James would have made away with my money, and I wouldn't complain.
But for him to cheat with my fiancé while I was away, and my fiancé gave him the space, was the worst and the height of it.
Anita, did her worst, please if by chance anyone here bears the tow mentioned name, this article intends not to discredit your name and true character. They are real names and real life story. Which is perfectly acceptable here. Right; Anita gave him the chance to do that.
But whoever, even if that was the case, was it right for James to do that to me? Considering the fact of, I am not God, but all my efforts to make him grow. What took me away for some month was a business trip. Which he didn't have the connection required to for that meeting. I went there, and represented the both of us, being that he is being sponsored by me.
I understand the implications of what it would be if I don't do my best to maintain and keep his business on going. To be frank, he is the first person I brought into business, we graduated together, then James, did all of those he did.
To me, one go, another comes. I am fine now; since then, we parted ways. It is over ten years now. But if he should have the boldness to come back to me for favour, we are human and ten years is enough to be healed. After all, I didn't marry Anita, and I haven't mentioned this to my wife before.
I have wrong people directly or indirectly, forgiveness is abandoned. So I would still have mercy and help them. But I would be more careful, I won't be too open, and; like trade with caution.
Nonetheless, help to me is a nature; I love helping, it doesn't matter the tasks it would cause me.
My Uncle, who attended a seminar school and opted to be a priest, but alone the line, a family member of our sprout mischievous liars against him. If an understanding of the Catholic doctrine, that before anyone gets ordination; as a priest, his family must be clear of every void.
But because of mischievous allegation that my grandpa was a killer, my Uncle ordinations were cancelled. Eighteen years of studying and ongoing seminary school wasted. However, to cut the long story short; hi's a wealthy man, we are the big name in the community; the same family who caused us pains, are seeking for help from him today.
Such was it, I being a good learning, I would still help James if he should needs me again. I'm not God, to Judge the iniquity of men, for the evil men do lives with them. I will help, my Uncle is helping, so I'm not better than him; James only broke my two years relationship, but my lost an ordination he has wasted eighteen good years of his life.
Only to still come back to forgave; I try as much to learn good things, no matter how difficult it is, so If James come to seek for help from me, yes I would still stand that helping hand but will this time trade with caution.