It will seem like this is a fake hack, will never work. But believe me, keeping silence in an argument can make you a winner.
If I talk about this it will sound bookish. But I apply this in my daily life and always find it beneficial. Like in my office as well as my home.
How and why does this work?
You don't have to keep silent for the whole argument. Just for a few minutes. Let the other party say what they have to say, let the anger blowdown. So when they get ready to listen and understand your logic; only then choose to talk.
- Keeping silent means you will not say anything wrong.
- You can organize your logic.
- You can point out what the other party is saying wrong.
- The anger, stress will calm down over time.
Two examples from my life.
In an argument with my wife, I usually don't say anything; not after a few minutes. hahaha...But I tell my logic sometime later. And guess what? This is a cool technique to run your married life smoothly.
Also, in professional life; when you pledge someone guilty for anything but they never approve. Ask them directly about it but keep silent. Don't give any logic or anything. If you force them more to tell the truth they will never do that. But if you keep silent, stare at them for a few seconds; there's a high chance that this will make them nervous and they will end up telling the truth.
The psychology behind it is elementary. People get scared, they imagine the upcoming disagreement which may affect their relationship. So they choose to tell the truth.
This is nothing complex to follow. Work on your attitude and gradually you can have control over your mouth as I achieved. This mind game will always help you win the argument and make you a better person.