How to Overcome Low Self-esteem in a Socialized Environment

Naturally, life is designed in such a way that people of like mind and similar interests tend to relate with one another either formal or informal way. But some few people find it very difficult to relate or socialize with others, this may not be unconnected with certain factors or reasons best known to them. Those suffering from this psychological issue are aware of it, infact, some tried to get out of low self-esteem but couldn't and it keeps hurting them. I will be highlighting some possible steps you need to take to get over it and freely enjoy yourself in a socialized environment.

The first thing your need to do is to identify your weaknesses. Some cases of low self-esteem are related to weak points. Weak points could be, lack of formal education, poverty, physical challenge, a particular family history, past mistake or offence known to people around you e.t.c. while some of these weaknesses may not be easily changed, you can work on others to change the odds that are against you. For instance, if you feel belittled amongst your peers because of lack of formal education, the solution is simply to enroll yourself in school or go for a vocational training to have something to be proud of. You may not have enough money to flow with your peers but your attitude and wisdom can keep you going with them. Work on your weaknesses that make you feel irrelevant. Ask those who are capable to lecture or teach you how to deal with it or those who had similar experience and how they got out of it. Speaking out will help bring solution sooner than expected. The more you keep those problems that make you doubt yourself, the more you are hurting your emotion. To interact freely in a social gathering, you to first identify and work on you weakness.

The next thing you need to do is to believe yourself, you are the better you as long as nobody can exactly be you. Think before you carry out actions or say anything, learn to analyze the probably consequences or benefits of your actions or words and be confident in what you do. Sometimes you don't have to speak if you don't have to. Once what you have said is the right thing, just believe that you just said a right thing. Never consider yourself a failure due to past history because certain factors might have worked against you, all you need is to work on those factors. Your best is in you and the number one propelling force that can bring it out is to believe what you do and have hope in God for better results. You don't need to feel inferior showcasing your work, otherwise, you are sending message to others that your work is fake. A sense of self worth is the beginning of boldness. You must feel and believe yourself to be useful in order to make meaningful impacts in a social gathering.

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Sometimes, your problem may be that you don't relate with your mates but with people of higher pedigree than you where your opinion may not necessarily count, high self-esteem may be difficult in such relationship. Don't forget this proverb

The birds of the same feather flock together

Relate with people you can freely interact with confidence, where your voice will matter and where your opinion counts. You have to also bear in mind that not everywhere your opinion will count but try to identify where it does.

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Learn to contribute to valid points in a social discussion, what you think is foolish may be interesting to someone else, contribute creatively and make your contribution as simple as possible. Sometimes you just need to concur with a valid points or disagree with invalid points. Bear in mind that there are always critics in a social gathering and discussion, don't expect people to always agree with you. Learn from criticism and do better next time. Some people fear to be criticized because they are not sure whether what they want to say or do will be acceptable to people and keep mute. Let your voice be held, someone might be looking forward to hearing it. Also, be bold enough to let your friends evaluate your behavior and if they are honestly enough, it will help you to adjust where necessary.

Participating in sport activities like football, basketball or any other sport events will help improve your social life and reduce low self-esteem. There you will have one or two persons to talk to, possibly your team mates. It is easy to interact with someone working with you than the outsiders. You can start to built your confidence from such activities.

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Finally, try to mingle with people, be free enough to make meaningful contribution to discussion and train yourself to be bold enough to a point of zero self doubt. Your contributions are welcomed. Feel free to contribute, suggest and ask question