If it is our feelings about things that torment us rather than the things themselves, it follows that blaming others is silly. Therefore, when we suffer setbacks, disturbances, or grief, let us never place the blame on others, but on our own attitudes.
Small-minded people habitually reproach others for their own misfortunes. Average people reproach themselves. Those who are dedicated to a life of wisdom understand that the impulse to blame something or someone is foolishness. To be honest there is nothing to be gained in blaming, whether be others or oneself. I mean why cry over spilled milk?
One of the signs of moral progress is the gradual extinguishing of blame. We see the futility of finger pointing. The more we examine our attitudes and work on ourselves, the less we are apt to be swept away by stormy emotional reactions in which we seek easy explanations for unhidden events.
Things simply are what they are. Other people think what they will think; it is of no concern to us.At the end just do you without No Shame and No Blame.