I cherish relationships a lot, and I value friendships. So I always make sure I put in my best to make sure I am not the reason for ending relationships with people. I try as much as possible to play my part and also study and understand people better before getting into any friendships with them.
Another important thing I cherish is family ties, for me, there is no place like home and there is no one as your family. Your family can go to any extent to ensure they see you succeed. But at times there are always the wrong ones among us. We can’t be the same even if we try to.
There are some times when the family begins to grow bigger and bigger, times when we start to extend family relationships from immediate family down to having in-laws, cousins, nephews, aunts, and uncles. At this point it's not just family alone, we have different kinds of people among us and you can't expect everyone to be the same or equal.
My dad and his younger brother were so close, that the friendship and family relationship between both of them was as strong as anything. It extended down to my aunts too. They loved each other so much. My dad playing the role of the head of the family did his best to create unity and love among them.
But at some point, my uncle, who is my dad's immediate brother, began to act strange all of a sudden. He began to see my dad as someone inferior and never counted my dad’s words with value.
We know people change, but that shouldn’t have your eyes cleared away from reality. Since he got married and gave birth to my cousins he never created a family bond between us. As for my parents, they would always let us visit them at any point in time, but in the end, their kids wouldn't come to visit us. I guess they saw us as some kind of parasitic beings. Not until Mum restricted us from going to visit them.
At some point, my uncle changed their surname from the general surname we bear to his name. He was like he wanted to start his own family and generation. It was funny to me, but I wasn’t surprised because I knew it might later get to that extent. He changed drastically. I don't know his reasons why. But I feel his reasons are just clear to him and his family.
He said some odd words to me years back that I can never forget in my life. Since then I knew the kind of person he was. I never wish such to happen between me and my siblings.
Yet I wasn’t so bothered about the toxic relationship he had with Dad, I will never judge my cousins with his attitude. I make sure I get in touch and keep in contact with those who are willing to get close to me among them.
Only time can tell, we live in the same city but it's been up to a decade since we got together as families. My dad had to let go of him and let him live the life he wanted. Sooner or later he might realize his mistakes and the need to have people around him will surely surface someday. I just hope it won't be too late by then.
This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in hive learners community for the Week 126 Edition 2 and the topic to be discussed is THE WORST REASONS
