We all have our differences, and they are a result of who we are. We can never be the same. Our characters and personalities define who we are.
Last month I was on a trip to Lagos and had to onboard a commercial vehicle. I sat next to a lady and then when the bus conductor hopped on the bus I heard her say “ How come this guy is so smelly” doesn't he bathe at all”. She laughed after uttering such words and then slapped herself saying “My mouth will not kill me”
Let's just assume the bus conductor heard her statement of abuse, then two things will happen. It’s either he zeroed his mind like he never heard it and did not even react at all or he takes it up on her for throwing such words at him.
This is how arguments start and from there, it turns out to birth more offensive words which will actually lead to fight, quarrel, or disagreement in the very end.
Most times it's just best to try as much as to avoid getting into any form of argument because in the end there is always no good result from it but destruction.
Another quick scenario I witnessed was that of a driver and a passenger. The driver was late getting on the bus and driving. When he got in, the passenger beside me said “Look at his cap like those that beg for money on the street”. She might not have taken it seriously or maybe a joke. The driver heard her statement and it became a war.
She never saw it coming. The driver happened to be the aggressive type and she was even way younger than him. That was more of what caused the aggression. Ten minutes into the journey they were both throwing words at each other. They abused each other not until other passengers tried to settle it so the driver could concentrate.
In that case, if the driver loses concentration and then loses control of his driving, then they say it's an accident. Meanwhile, it was just a result of an argument.
Another home of argument is where you see people gather to watch football or reading news updates. They are always arguing all the time, so to avoid arguments one has to be careful and make sure they monitor where they move to, have control over their words, and think before uttering words. Ask themselves first, these words I am about to say if it was thrown at me how would I react to them?
In conclusion
I have practiced to be patient and careful not to get into any form of argument. Some of the way I get myself out of arguments is by making sure I remain silent to arguments, and when I feel annoyed, I walk away. Another way I go about preventing arguments is to succumb easily when I realize the counterpart is not ready to listen or agree. It's either I admit or I apologize first and let the case be buried.
This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in the hive-learners community for the Week 161 Edition 2 and t
The topic to be discussed is **SETTLING AN ARGUMENT **
