I don’t love getting involved in fights. I observe people fighting day in and day out, but I do not have the tactics to settle them. This arises from an experience I had as a child. It's so pathetic that, as a child, I would rather remain in my comfort zone than get involved with those who fight.
I learned a bitter lesson through my husband. He showed me an injury he had when he was still staying with his parents. He says he argued with his stepmother as a result of the errand he had sent his stepbrother on. His stepbrother refused to attend to his message and instead told his mother, who refused to let him go on the errand. My husband decided to tell his dad, and so, this was where the unexpected happened. He did choose to question his step-nephew on the reason she halted her son from attending to his stepbrother. She was so adamant and was not letting his dad speak a word. His dad decided to throw the torchlight with him at her. It did not hit her, but then she turned around, picked up the torchlight, and threw it at my husband, who was not expecting that from her. This gave him a deep wound. After this incident, he vowed to always run away from a scene that could result in a fight. Hadn’t he just let go, it would have been a different case, but now the result was not smiling, and that mark in him will be a mark that he will never forget in his life.
Keira Burton
I have gone to watch a fight between two reputable people. The fight was so intense, but I had to jump into it just like others. Although I was just a child, I was a fight watcher. That fight resulted in the shooting. When everyone heard the sound of the gun, they all absconded, but this was where my character changed for the better. A stray bullet passed by my left ear. I was so lucky that it did not touch me and did not injure me. I was so shocked that I could not tell my parents at home. I never wanted them to know, as they would do the worst to me.
After some months, my parents observed that I had changed from being a fight watcher to an advisor. I began to advise people to steer clear of the fighting arena.
Back to the prompt
How do you settle a fight?
I'm the type that would advise two people fighting to stop and would tell them the implications behind fighting, and when they disagree with my advice, I would walk away. I wouldn’t want the fight to happen, but then I would not stay to witness the fight just because of experience. While arguing, the best I would do is to call one party and ask him or her to stop arguing, and would tell him or her to desist from the argument, and would also tell them what it would lead to.
How do you know when to fight back or walk away?
I don’t accept fights and would never wait to fight except in a serious case. If it has to do with when I'm guilty and someone is trying to frame me for something when I'm still alive, I must fight back. Fighting back does not mean I should fight to get injured. When it turned to carrying unwanted substances to fight back at me, I had to run to the police station to lay a complaint.
How do I make sure an argument does not lead to a moment of regret?
I have said before now that I would rather walk away than wait for the argument to become a moment of regret.