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Decision making is part of life and we all make decisions about things that concerns us every day. One thing we need to know is that is not all the decisions we make that should be favorable to us. Some favor us and some don't favor us. The problem is how do we handle decisions when they favor us and how do we handle the decisions that don't favor? This is what we need to discuss in this last edition of week 161.
What is decision making first? This is the ability to take a stand in the presence of any situation. And sometimes it demands us accepting the consequences of that action. Decision most not all favor us when we make them. Once we stand by what we want to do, let's bear in mind that the outcome may be positive or even negative. Don't be too expectant. Maybe that is where we are getting it wrong. We are always happy when it works out good for us, but we get sad when it does not work out good for us. We need to balance that also.
WHAT IS MY DECISION MAKING PROCESS?
It depends on the kind of decision I am about to make. If is a major decision most times I make sure that my husband is involved and gives us his approval. Why I go through that route is because as the man of the house he needs to be carried along and also gives his blessings. If is not done so, then I may not be able to achieve much when I start.
But when is a Minor decision and I know that it will be okay for me, I just go ahead and do it. You know some of this decision can just be taken on your way home or even in the market. One can just change his or her mind on what has been agreed before. This may not have any bad effect on me or my family because I know is just a minor thing which does not require much to do.
HOW DO I APPROACH THEM?
I have learnt alot of lessons that I don't tie my heart to anything that will cause me pain in the future. When I make decisions over anything at anytime at all, I open up my heart to accept anything that will come out of it. I have made it very clear from the beginning of this post that I can't come and kill myself when any decision that I take did not work out the way I expected it from the onset. Two things are involved when any decision is taking, it doesn't matter how sure you were when you were about to make that decision. It will be either good or bad at the end of the day. So, when it comes out good, how should we respond? When it gets bad, how should we also respond. Take it with good fate. This is all I can say about how I handle decision making and it's out come. If it demands money and I am so sure that I need to do it, I will tell myself from the beginning that I will be fine be it good or bad at the end. Because sometimes you will be so sure of the outcome of your decision, but something might go wrong at the end that it won't work out the way we expected.
This is actually the steps that I take to ensure that I don't get hurt with the outcome of my decisions. I'm a human and I know that anything can happen that I am not aware of. So when such things happen I encourage myself and move on.
Finally, life only has one part. Part two is not guaranteed. So living it with regret everyday because things did not work out my way is a kind of punishing myself and I am not about to do that. I'm calmed no matter the outcome of anything.
Thanks dear friends and happy Easter to all.