Inferiority makes one think that they are not enough and it is accompanied by shame, embarrassment and self doubt. I can't remember ever feeling insecure about myself because I am what they called Tuza Queen. This is basically what people that can't sit their ass in one place are called. I am everywhere showing my beautiful face in an arrogant and confidence manner and the last thing i worry about is what people think about me.
I use to admire my self even when walking on the road. I check myself out in every windscreen of cars I happened to pass by. Just to admire God's perfection creation and make sure that she is cat walking beautifully.
For this reason I was totally bewildered when my cousin sister Chisom confided in me that she was feeling very inferior among her friends and relations. I noticed that she always turn down their invitation to hang out for some fun. During the christmas season when everybody were all going out together to catch some fun she would stay back in the house alone.
She said this about herself to me...
I am so fat and that's why I go for shapeless clothes that will hide my fat figure. My cousin sisters all have perfect body and they all look so beautiful in their mini skirts and short dresses. Hanging out with them makes me feel inferior.
First of all I corrected her that she was beautiful the way she look and should never ever call herself ugly. I used myself as an example to her that there was a time that I was so skinny that people do make jest of me but I didn't let that get to me. Even my big aunties used the fact that I was skinny to mock me whenever I do something wrong. But well I didn't let that get to me. I still continued in my tuza queen ministry because their words dosen't define me. I am not who they think I am but i am who I think I am. I did not just say it, I also believed it and put it into action. I wore clothes that will reveal my fine legs and I don't give a care in the world if it was ok with people or not.
I encouraged her to love herself because the world will not do that for her. In life nobody is perfect but you got to love yourself with your imperfections. She also opened more and more to me on how she dosen't wear sleeveless because her arms were big and so many other things in her body that makes her feel inferior. It was really emotional for her and I can feel her fears as she poured it all out to me.
As we were talking I asked to take a look at her wardrobe and we both took the three minutes walk to ther house. I told her to take her bath after which I gave her makeover. I choose a sleeveless dress for her to wear. She bought that dress months ago but never wore because of her insecurities. By the time I finished dressing her up she was looking so beautiful but I noticed that there was one thing missing and that was confidence. I asked her to wait for me to get dressed and as I walked back to my room I made some few calls.
When i was done, i joined her and together we went to visit my high school friend. They were celebrating their grandmother's birthday and it was a big gathering with lots of food and drinks. My friend when she first saw us she embraced my cousin sister and won't stop talking about how her dress looked so beautiful on her. My cousin sister's face brightened and her confidence surffaced immediately. My friend's brother saw her and after introducing themselves,they walked away together smiling.
As we were heading back home she was smiling sheepishly. She later confessed to me that my friend's brother said he likes her and she likes him too.
I rolled my eyes.
I only asked my friend to give her a big compliment and she went the extra mile of involving her brother. Chisom's mood had happiness written all over her and I was glad that i was able to make her have fun. So i used that opportunity and adviced her to dress more beautiful and go out with her other cousins to catch fun that she will meet more handsome men that will fall in love with her.
And that was it!
Chisom automatically turned into a fashionista for plus size women and today she is in the United kingdom working as a nurse. She has a doctor fiancee and they are set to wedd this December.
I can't wait to see her again
