The issues of telling lies even when it seems to be inevitable or it said to be used for a greater good still stands as an object of contention till tomorrow. Lying generally is not good and it is frowned at especially by me. I do not like lying and it’s a great turn off for me but I have seen myself lie on some occasions maybe because I was trying to avert an issue or trying to cover up something.
I am not proud of such occasions at all. I believe there’s no justification for lying but some people have made lying a part of their life that nothing they ever say tends to be true. Those kind of people that even when they greet you, you have to check the time to really know if it’s the right time. They mostly must have started little by little in a bid to cover up one or two mistakes and then it becomes a part of their lives.
Sometimes I stay in the bus and I hear people talking to someone over the phone and they lie about their location, they tell you that they are close meanwhile they are so far away from where they say they are or they say that there is traffic meanwhile the road is as free as air. These scenarios already paints a bad picture of those people and already begins to make my skin crawl.
Meanwhile there are some situations that may arise that would make you tell people otherwise or not tell exactly the situation for example one of my senior colleagues told me a very touching story of the encounter he with the father of the girl he wanted to marry. Some people can be very mean and troublesome but in a bid to save a relationship, what will you do?
He had been courting this girl and have been planning on marrying her and it was time to go see the family. He said on interaction with the father in law to be, he noticed the man was not a good person. He was very cunning and not straight forward at all. He would say one thing and do another. The question is, how do you related with this kind of person to get his blessing to give you his daughter in marriage.
He said the father in law to be had asked him to bring his family to come and meet him. So on this special day after the agreement, this my colleague went with his father, mother and elder brother to go see the girls father. On getting to their house, the girls father told them that he was going to work and left them and went out after they agreed to meet. That is to tell you how the man is. My friend said his father was wondering what was happening and he had to start defending the father inlaw to be by telling his father that the father inlaw to be does not know traditions, he is not a traditional person and hence they shouldn’t take the attitude to heart.
The explanation he gave to his family as to why they were treated that way is the only thing that have saved that relationship up until now. Would you call that wisdom or lying. He had to be diplomatic to save his marriage that is yet to start. These things have no stereotypes, I see it as being diplomatic when a delicate situation needs to be saved but outright lying is a no no for me.
Which ever way it goes, lying cannot be justified. Lying is lying whether small or big. Whether white or blue lie, lies are lies but sometimes diplomacy is required in handling some sensitive issues while I still believe that the truth will always set us free.