Those we love will indeed hurt us the most because every swing and jab they take pierces our heart, and no armor can shield us from their attack. I guess it hurt more because we trusted and relied on them not to hurt us, but then they decided to break our trust, and hence it is not even what they did that hurt, but the fact that they were the ones who did it.
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Forgiving those who hurt us is not necessarily for them; hatred pollutes our mind, it drives us crazy, and pushes us into doing something we would regret...
The phrase Forgive and Forget is more about moving on completely about what happened and not really about us erasing the memory that they hurt us; the only way we can forget is if they wipe our memory.
We are humans and not designed to forget certain things; it is harder to forget our most exciting days, special days, and sad days because they have to do with our feelings, and feelings and emotions are connected to the heart, even if we try to forget, things, places, and images would remind us.
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I have this habit of distancing myself from people who hurt me because I do not want it to repeat itself. Forgiving is the easiest thing for me to do, but being close to them or acting like we used to is something that is no longer possible, because trust issues have increased to 101 percent, and there's no way I am putting my heart in their hands again... Once bitten, twice shy.
There are some people whose energy is just bad for us, and trying to keep them around will put us in trouble. If these kinds of people hurt us, we can forgive them, but we should never let them back into our lives, as we would be giving them another chance to hurt us again. People do not change easily.
Some will intentionally hurt you to apologize when caught. It is okay to forgive them, but we must never give them the chance to hurt us again, because we might not have the opportunity to survive it.
You got poisoned by your best friend, but you survived it. If you choose not to forgive him, no one would blame you, but if you forgive him, foolishness is trying to keep him around again, because the next time he tries to kill you, he will make sure not to miss.
Forgive and forget does not exist in my dictionary, and I do not think we have many people who believe in such. Forgive and distance sounds better... Forgive them for your peace of mind, but no more being together.
I also think it depends on their offence, some friends are too good to abandon, as humans, we are prone to making mistakes, but it should not be one that puts us in harms way, or else no point in staying with them.
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