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Being bullied could cause trauma to its victims by imposing on themselves negativity and not seeing the good side of whatever they are accused of.
What is a Bully?
Bully can be expressed in a few sentences;
A bully can be seen as intimidation in a way of underestimating your victim/prey.
A bully can be seen as oppressing/subduing a person into accepting the inferiority imposed by the attacker.
A bully is an act of subjecting your victim to false or ill words and making them believe it because they are perceived as vulnerable.
A bully can be perceived as an act meted out by a person who wants to compel harm to their victim.
With the question prompt of the weekly edition 03, which says...
Sometimes, I am calm and observant, so random people thought I could be bullied.
The answer is " Yes ".
Bully mostly happens in the college, dormitories, and hostels all categorized into schools. I never said it can't happen elsewhere, it does!! It happens commonly in school. The reason why this negative feeling happens is because of the coming together of peers (persons of the same legal status) who are the students with one thing in common " Education " in all aspects.
So when classmates see other pupils they associate, socialize, communicate with them, and sometimes bump into the quiet and vulnerable ones, that is when the bully comes in, cause they feel they can't speak for themselves. Then the victim feels terrorized by someone who is in the same grade as him, while this seems like a cliche, it is true.
My experience in a short narration.
So back then in school, I had no friends but I did anyway. This incident did not happen in school, it happened on church premises but not on an actual day for service/mass. My school is just adjacent to the church, so families who have their kids in school normally come to the church.
That very day was on a Saturday and there is always a meeting for the children called "Catechism". If you are a catholic you would know what I am talking about. We have already dismissed for that day, and all the classes have dispersed thereby causing quite a traffic in movement. So, I just hung around the premises and waited for the crowd to reduce.
Meanwhile, I felt a thud at my back and the object (stone) dropped to the floor. I looked back immediately to find out where it came from but I couldn't see anything, so I maintained my stance while waiting. The second time, I felt another hit, this time it was at the back of my neck. It pained me a lot to not see this person, then I promised to be extra vigilant if it was to occur again, and eventually, it did. Quickly as possible, I veered to where it came from and I saw her, she was trying to sneak herself out by walking away. I ran towards her, this same girl has been making horrible references about me both in my presence and absence such that when I walked past her and the little group they would just laugh so loud.
Back to running towards her, I approached her and asked her furiously why she would do that. I almost raised my hand in smacking her so bad that the pain would hurt her for an eternity before a worker in the church intercepted. I told her that it was her lucky day and that I would have beaten her up mercilessly in a way that when she stares at the mirror she will burst out in tears. I made sure that I reminded her that I know of her silly and nonchalant behavior with her friends too. I also told her that this should better be her last intimidation or else she would get it very hot. I guess she understood what I said because she was speechless like a dummy and me myself fuming with anger and seriousness. After that encounter, she never stepped on me again also her friends.
My Thoughts On Bully
Bullying is not a healthy act, it should be curbed to an extent because when this happens to someone it causes an inferiority complex and deals with the individual mental health. Also when this applies too much pressure on the victim, it could spring forth aggressiveness which could cause chaos and create a disturbing scenario.
How To Eradicate It
One way to stop this act from happening to you or anyone is to...
- Stand up for yourself - Allowing things to happen because you are scared to confront such an act simply means giving the attacker more power over you.
- Make them back down - Let your voice supersede theirs, what I mean is your volume should be above theirs in the essence that would feel the tremble when you speak with such authority and confidence. Never let the negativity they carry around influence you and make you weak.
- Move with the savage friends - Not bad friends lol. I meant friends that would not hesitate to shut anyone who says otherwise. The no-nonsense gang.
- Report to the authorities - When cases like this arise a few times, make sure to report to the authorities of the school or file a case of a bully in the police department.
