The easiest way for people to lose trust in you is by making promises that you will never keep. Some of us are very good at making promises even when nobody asks for it. Promising someone something and failing to fulfill it isn't bad if the reason why you didn't meet up to fulfill it is genuine.
Let's take, for example, a friend who made a promise to help me out with a situation I found myself in; she gave me the exact date when she would give me the money. I waited that day but didn't see any message or call from her.I tried to call her but her number wasn't going through. I was angry initially because I thought it was because of the money that she wasn't picking up.
I decided to let her be, but inside, I was already planning to pay her back because I so much believed in her. Since I always help her whenever she needs it, then it's my turn, and she suddenly switched up on me.After one month, she contacted me to say that she was so sorry. At first, I didn't want to talk to her, but I still listened to her.
She told me that she lost her phone two days before that day and she lost my contact and didn't know how to reach me. She saw one of our friends in the market in the state where she was staying, and that's how she got my number.She just asked for my account and immediately fulfilled the promise.
Since then, I learned a valuable lesson: never be quick to judge or conclude on any issue without hearing from the other side, even if the person will lie. I stopped believing in promises. I remember the day I made a promise to someone and failed not because I didn't want to fulfill it but because I was forced to make that promise, which I knew from the onset that I wouldn't be able to keep.
Although I have made some promises I didn't fulfill, I will always try to make it up even if it has passed because I know how I feel when someone promises and never makes it happen. I used to feel disappointed and see the person in another way, especially when the person is fond of making empty promises that they will never fulfill.
One such promise that pained me was seven years ago after I graduated from high institution and went to visit one of my uncles for a different matter. He asked if I am done with school, to which I said yes. He then told me that as soon as I finish my service, I should bring my discharge letter and other credentials. I told him I am done.
He asked me to go home and bring all my documents for him because he was a senior staff at Shell back then. Lo and behold, he never did anything and even blocked me finally until he was sick; that's when he unblocked me. Because he needed my help then. So I don't take promises to heart anymore. I take it that as long as we are on this planet called Earth, people will disappoint you. Never take any promise to heart, because circumstances can change or stop people from keeping their words.
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