Your decisions are yours and yours alone, you own them, so don't let anyone dictate what you should do and what not to do.
Some of us are victims of what people expect from us and what they say is right for us. They live their life to please others and they never stops doing what will make the other pleased.
But what about your own life, do you know what is right for you ? . do you do what pleases you ? ..
We are the owners of our decisions, so we should learn to decide for our selves. Just because John decides to go to a night party doesn't mean you must join him. You can still decide to do other things. i am not asking you not to go to night parties but over the years, i have observe that people will blindly follow their friends anywhere and abandon what they have decided to do at that time.
There is this boy i see in school with that character. He does this to the extent that it seams like he worships his friend.
This boy will bring a long list of things he is supposed to do for the day, while at it, this his friend will come and tell him to follow him to somewhere not even that important. This boy will abandon everything he is doing and follow the friend. I noticed this for a long time till i decided to talk to him.
Me: does he pay your school fee?
The boy: no
Me: does he feed you?
The boy: no
Me: so why do you do everything he ask you to do, even when you know that, that thing is going to affect you?
The boy replied me saying that he doesn't want to be ridiculed by his friends. That if he should refuse their request, they might start hating him and doing all sort of things against him. So in order to please them and have their favor, he has to do whatever they ask him to do.
Wow! You don't even have your own decisions because you are trying to protect a friendship that doesn't need you.. I call that bull$hit.
If your friends are not going to respect your decisions then flee from them. Such people are not your friends. Except you are trying to do something bad, your friends have no right to tell you what to do and whatnot to do no matter what. Even if the so-called friend is paying your dues.
As a friend that loves, you should respect each others decision and not try to control it. If your friend is taking the wrong path, call him and advice him. Allow him to make his own decisions.
I don't know how this will sound but any friend that doesn't respect your decisions will not help you grow in life except you are still not matured enough to make right decisions for yourself.
These kinds of friends will only impose their taught on you. They will make you do what they want you to do. And definitely it is not going to help you because in life, there are decisions you need to make alone.
Don't allow anybody decide for you. Don't let anyone control you. Be yourself and do what is right. You will definitely succeed✔
From the stables of divplanet ✔