Infertility: A Woman's Burden
Infertility is the topic about which you will see multiple people talking about, but it's always argued that it's from her side. Giving a baby to your husband is a blessed thing, but if it's not happening, she must not be cursed for it. Recently, a case has been reported in Pakistan where a young lady narrated a heart-wrenching story.
I forgot to breathe
How infertility became a slap for her which took her precious 9 years of life. She was made guilty for not giving a baby, things became more messy when she was called transgender. Like, in what world are we living? And how ridiculous it became when her femininity was tested and it was proved that she is a woman. Can you believe all this? I can't think of how cruel a society can become when they start judging others.
Does they have right for survive
She went through all this mental stress as she knew that she was not wrong. Even our religion doesn't allow us to get so much down in ethics, like why you have to degrade someone for the fault she isn't responsible for. Suppose if she was transgender, what else would you do then? Would you break the relationship by saying this? And that person did this too, he married another lady without permission of her first wife and then divorced her too. I just have to ask how someone can do this. She has spent life with you and now when you know that she couldn't give you a baby, you chose your happiness over her struggle.
Not even religion not even humanity
Not even all the lands are fertile, so how are you gonna compare her with someone else? What do we need in marriages? A baby or mental peace? Our religion gives us preaching to complete our Eman by doing Nikkah and when you get married to someone, you have completed your religion. No one suggests that giving a baby would rank you high in heaven or even you would be considered prestigious in the world. So how can you tag someone as inhuman just because she isn't able to complete your family.
Denial of her rights
And a more drastic thing happened when that person refused to give her dowry and alimony back to her by saying that she hasn't given me a baby. The Supreme Court of Pakistan ordered to overrule his statements and give her back all the alimony she wanted along with the fine of five lac for the stress he has given to her for nine years.
What about the hell life she spent
I only ask, will all this bring back the precious days of her life gone? Will she be able to take the name of marriage again? Will she be able to move freely in the public who questioned her femininity? I wanted to ask that husband, if she couldn't give you a baby, would you weigh her struggle, care and love?
They can't be faulty
Why can't this society ask you for your inhuman act? If your second wife couldn't give you a baby, then will you go to test her femininity? You must be asked for your manly fault, but no one would do this as you are living in a man-dominant society. As far as I know, this society's ladies would never stand for another lady except if they went through the shared pain too.
A ruined life
Nine precious years of her previous life she kept on listening to the tag of being infertile, his family made her bow before all the so-called and fake Baba G. In order to make her a mother, she went through ridiculous tests to prove her a woman and she tolerated all this suffocation silently. She must have cut off that relationship earlier which filled toxicity into her life but alas she was a woman and she didn't have the right to stand for herself. Pens down.