It's another unique week all the way, I want to specially bring greetings to the distinguished members of the Hive Learner's family. Welcome to the first edition of week 26.
According to Oxford dictionary, anger is said to be a strong feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something, usually combined with an urge to harm. Anger is a part of Everyman, it is the worst and dangerous part of mankind. I have seen anger taking life out of people, left to me anger has no positive impact on the lives of men, through anger many have lost good opportunities and have regrets afterwards. No wonder it is said anger lies in the bosom of fools. It is only a fool that would see a thing that he knows the end is destruction and still go ahead and do it. Since anger is part of every man we can deduce it that can be stirred or provoked anytime and any day. It is just like water in a ditch no matter how clean it is, if you disturb it, it would change color. Anger is invincible but it is more dangerous than the most powerful weapon in the world. It can wipe an entire generation overnight, anger always seeks vengeance, it just wants to be satisfied. Like a match, anytime it Kindles it wants to devour.
Anger can be stirred by many things which may include; disappointments, betrayal, pressure, stress, unfulfillment, false accusations, hatred, bitterness, jealousy, envy, depression, obsession, alcohol, grief e.t.c. Anger is very explosive and it has a very bad effect on both the person with the issue and the person that stirred it. Anger can cause depression and anxiety and pains on the person exercising it and the end of every anger is regret. I personally remember times I did some funny things out of anger and at the end, I saw what I called the right thing to do as my greatest folly. Nevertheless we should device means of curbing anger issues it would help us a lot, anger is volatile yet it can be calmed. We can manage it, thank God anger generates from within us. We can can handle it since it is not an outside force.
Can anger be a tool of transformation?
The above question is same as saying can poison bring relief to the stomach? Honestly speaking anger is never a tool that can bring about change and below are my reasons
- Anger corrects with cruelty : there is no one who ever corrects another with anger that doesn't leave the person injured either physically or emotionally. The blows of the words of anger can tear down the strongest wall of any heart. I have seen parents batter their children living severe injuries on their kids simply because they did wrong, and do you know that after the beating the child would still repeat the same thing over and over. I am not saying discipline is bad, but it should not be done in anger. A man in our community killed his own son because of anger issues, the guy always goes out and comes home late, after several beatings and threats one day, when he returned home the dad use a log of wood and hit the boy on his head and that was how that young man died. What is it that we can't correct in love? It is bad to judge matters when we are angry, it will make us draw wrong conclusion. It will shift our focus from being considerate to being self centered. Anger is stronger than atomic bomb, an angry man can eat the flesh of his own child and regret later. Do you know that after every angry conclusion we tend to regret the decisions subsequently? Check your life anything you ever did in anger, didn't you regret it? Let us learn to allow our anger calm down before we take decisions. I know it might be the right thing to do but if it is done in anger it would cause destruction, you why ? Anger would increase the depth of it, anger would make you slap someone you ordinarily are supposed to say "don't repeat this again". It is best we correct in love, sometimes our offenders need enlightenment and not shouts and blows and floggings. They need to understand the effect of what they are doing and be corrected. But anger can not do that because it is a sword, the only thing anger knows is to devour.
- Anger takes away compassion and human sympathy: angry moments are moments of war, every atom of love is deadened, the only thing alive is vengeance. We just want what we feel is right to be done at that moment. We want the offenders to feel depths of the pains in our hearts. At that point we don't want to know anything, whether the person is an orphan, whether he did it out of ignorance, No! we don't want to hear that all we want is he should be punished and pay fully for what he/she has done. I am not saying that penalty should not be given to who so ever it is due, but we should not do it in anger. We may pass judgements that are wrong. There was a time a thief was burnt alive in my place because he stole a bike and fought the okada guy. Before the police arrives he was already burnt beyond recognition, will a human being in a normal state set another fellow on fire? Even if the person is a murderer? What are the works of the police and the courts around? Why take justice into our hands? Life is too precious, if you can not create one, please don't take one. Same person that burnt that fellow, if it were on a normal day, I am sure they would not suggest taking his life as an option but you see what anger did? The sense of love in their hearts was covered, the senses of compassion was lost until they finished what they wanted. Can you call that change Or Justice?
- Anger is blind and foolish: an angry man is same with a mad man, we tend to loose our sense of correct reasoning whenever we are angry, we don't think broadly, We only consider things to our advantage and the wrong that was done without checking the other side. Have you ever flogged someone mercilessly and later felt bad for doing so and wished you could apologize though the person did wrong, but you felt guilty? That is anger. You would say things without being calculative, you might say I Know what I am doing , until you are done and the heat cools off, then you would begin to see how stupid you were. Ohhhhh! I wish we would be covered by a video whenever we are angry and then shown the videos later.
The most foolish and stupid person in the world is someone who is angry. He would never listen until he has done it,then he comes for apology later. But do you know that consistent anger can result in pride, and at that stage, saying sorry even when you are wrong would be a big matter. Anger is a deadly poison. There was a day I got angry with my mom and I said I won't eat her food again, I am a grown man, I know how to take care of myself. At that point I meant it so much, but you know what? Soon my anger subsided and hunger began hitting hard on me. I tried staying on my own and feeding myself and i ran out of money, ha! Not just that I began missing my mother's delicacies, no one adviced me to return and eat. What am I trying to say, though my mom wrong me and I was right to be offended but what does it have to do with food? You understand the thing now? Anger is foolish indeed.
- Anger doesn't stop until it is satisfied: anger is like fire it doesn't stop until it consumes it's opponents completely, or forced to stop by external forces otherwise forget it, it must execute the intends of it's heart. Is this what we want to use to cause change? Don't you think it would cause destruction rather than renovation? If there is any tool that can bring about change it's love. Sometimes anger can seem to look like the right judge, but if you would look at the destruction it caused before bringing about the so called change you would prefer you were left with your problems. I am not saying anger doesn't bring justice, it does but the justice of anger is not pure at all. In one way or the other, it will surely do dirty.
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