People are likely to be judged by what they constantly do. Our manner of life is believed to be a crucial element from which people tend to draw conclusions on matters. According to people they way we behave on the outside is the way we truly are. Sometimes such deductions can be true but if I am to rate it on the scale of 100% I will say the truthfulness is only 30% . I have seen people who behaved certain way because they want their true personality hidden,but that is not how they truly are, there are some who act certain way just to have fun. There are people whose faces naturally looks tough and dangerous but inside they are calm and simple. It is wrong to judge a book by its covers as it is being said.
If you are opportune to visit any police station and interact with a few of it's detainees do not be amazed if you find a few innocent people there who were caught because they seem to look like criminals. they are usually tagged suspects. It so pathetic how that many innocent people have been jailed without proper investigation. Their only offence was, being found around the scene of an offence, or looking certain way. I don't know if it's an offence to look tough on the face hehe.
For some person's it is the scar from their past that has placed a permanent mark on their lives, once an offence of the similitude of which they persons had committed before has taken place, the first person they will point fingers on is the person with such record. It is very painful, and be so embarrassing. This is one of the reasons why many people with low spirit give up in life and don't want to change. The fact that a person has done something before is not a guarantee that he/she will do it again. Change is a constant thing in life. Don't be surprise when you see a robber carrying the bible to preach tomorrow. It is wise that before we judge any matter, we should carry out proper investigation first, looking like it doesn't mean you're it. There is this quote my mom always uses , I don't know where she got it from, but is says " suspicion is a sin". Don't conclude when you have no proves.
I have been stereotyped before by my mother but it was not that bad because she has some parameters by which she judges me hehe.
I have been a very playful person even down to my teenage age, not playful like looking for troubly or playing on sand and the rest, no! My own play has level, it is on the aspect of catching cruise with people. I love making jest out of people, don't let me discover a lopehole in your life, if not you will suffer 😂. My cruise catching affects every aspect of life. I can make you so cry, if you are a careless person that drops things anyhow. God will have mercy on you if I find any of you precious belongings dumped anyhow hehe, if I pick it before I give it to you, I will make sure you cry blood first. But at the end I often give them back their stuff. just that you will have to look for it, until sweat starts dripping from your head down to your toes.
Because of me all my sisters learnt how to keep their things properly, but as I continued with that attitude, the entire house now painted me by what I do. So if anything gets missing in the house the first person anybody would ever suspect is me. You will hear them saying things like, please I don't like this kind of play, give me back my stuff. Hehe, guess the reign of my tricks had ended , since everyone now knows that way , I thought it was high time I stop.
Gradually over time I stopped doing that, and guess what ? things started missing at home without being found again. Drama era has ended, the real thing began to play out. they would often come to me but they will be surprise that after they stayed long and begged like they used to do , to their shame and disappointment, I wont go to my room or any corner and get their stuffs for them but tell them seriously I didn't pick it. Now obviously some one is using my shadow to steal things from the house.
One day my mom came back from her shop and she kept some money on the bed, and rushed to take her bathe because she had somewhere to go , after she finished her bath and came out she went in to check her money and it was not the way she kept it. As God will do it, that day I was at home but I didn't go to her room since she came back. When the matter grew hot, she called me , and started smiling as usual, that is what they used on me to make me give them back their stuffs Incase it was in my possession, but my mom was disappointed that after a lot of smiles, I seem not to understand what was happening, then she just stopped and said please give me my money I want to go out and I am running late. Ah money again? I didn't pick any money o mom, I told her. Immediately the smiles on her faced vanished and she was furious at me. She started telling me things like I don't like jokes , you play too much and you don't know the time for seriousness.
Her words really pierced through me and I wished the money was in my possession , so I could give her. I tried explaining but no one believed, she thought I was only punishing her because she dropped her purse carelessly and forgot to Lock the door, but I have stopped being like that long ago. She didn't believe it until I got so offended and retaliated, thank God she knows me very well. After I spoke angrily she realized I didn't really picked the money. She apologized to me and started carrying out a proper investigation but unfortunately we didn't find the money.
It was few months later that we discovered it was one of my sisters that was helping her ministry with mom's money. she knows where exactly mom keeps her money therefore Anytime the key is with her things gets missing. that was how we caught her heheh children wahala.
When the thing was getting out of hand, one of those days, mom came back home and called all of us and mentioned that she went to a witch doctor and collected a charm any body who is taking her money will have his/her stomach swollen if they do not confess , that was where your girl stated confessing o😁
The truth is nobody will be happy when he/she is been accused falsely. I was really hurt, if I took the money, it would have been a different case but I was innocent. I know that no one trusted me after things began missing truly in the house. they started seeing me as a thief, only God knows what they were thinking of me. I lost my mom's trust during those days until she discovered the true thief , that alone was a big slap on my face.
In conclusion, let us never conclude a matter when we do not have tangible evidence enough. Just because a person looks certain way or suspicious does not mean he/she is guilty. You might condemn a righteous man for nothing if you judge that way.
Thanks for reading through.
This topic was inspired by the third Edition of week thirty nine contest on Hive Learners community , titled stereotype. Feel free to check it out.