The Beginning Is Always A Struggle.
P̷i̷x̷a̷b̷a̷y̷ E̷d̷i̷t̷e̷d̷ ̷W̷i̷t̷h̷ ̷C̷a̷n̷v̷a̷
Starting something new is just like the growth stages of a child. At a point the child's only knows how to cry and opens the mouth to receive food. later he/she starts sitting, from sitting to crawling , from crawling to standing and then lastly the baby starts walking. All these are vital process almost all children undergo. I assure you none of them is ever simple.
Quietly behind the scene all those process were guided by the parents else the child might end up spending more than the excepted time required to pass those stages. I remember those days my when my younger sister was still learning how to walk. They had to get her extra aid by buying a baby Walker for her inorder to accelerate the process. Learning something new is a process and it requires time to land at perfection.
Every process has ups and down. The beginning of every matter is often the toughest. It is easier for anyone to give up where there is no sufficient motivation. At times you Wonder why many people start a thing and then quit along the way. It is not because they didn't want to continue but they lacked extra aid, there was no baby Walker given to the. Therefore they end up dispising what they had passion for initially.
Taking the first step is always hard, but once a person is able to conquer those forces that comes with discouragements, then there is a high tendercy of reaching the end. You see I understood through experience that our success and downfall is tied to people. Ask every one that has made it far in life today and they will tell you how that secretly they had someone telling them don't give up, oh! that's beautiful keep pushing hehe.
I know the pains that always comes with starting up something, there's always a point when one will feel I am not doing well, I am not measuring up, I am the worst, I don't belong here and the likes. Most of those feelings often troops in when one begins to compare his/herself with others.
Competition or comparison can be a very deadly poison to a beginner, though there are times it is good especially if it is worth it. Other times those we work under and people around can be the killers of our courage. You just finished putting your best to get something done and your boss be like, what nonsense is this? Ha!! At that point you will feel as if cold water was pour upon your zeal.
What have you been to Learners ? Do you know that you can be the very reason why someone quits? And you can also be the reason why he/she can choose to fight through even if the path seems very rough? Everything is possible if we believe yes! It is true as it is said, but it is very easy for one to fall if he/she is believing alone.
You can probably be the reason why your children don't understand mathematics, how do you expect a child to feel comfortable and practice more when you tell him/her, you are not serious or you don't know anything ? How about telling him /her you did well but you need to try better? What of compliments like you can make it? Don't give up, you are getting there? Oh ! They sound casual now right? But they are free pills that can cure low self esteem and help us discover ourselves.
You don't know what peace can do in learning. Most people fail because of fear and timidity. I remember how a parent made his son who loves drawing so much quit because he feels he is not good enough. The guy loves art but his work was not always nice looking. One day he brought a work he did and presented it to his dad, but instead of motivation the dad laughed at the work to scorn and afterwards said, I hope you won't show it to someone else? beloved from that day, the young boy dropped his pencil and never drew again.
Pardon my long story but I just want us to realize that people don't quite because they want to quit, some quit because they are not seeing good results and upon that, there is no one to buy them a baby Walker. Many people today end up just remaining at the level of sitting in learning. I overheard a pupil telling her teacher I don't like school, I want to learn hand work, why? Because I don't know anything even when I tried, I always fail. So pathetic
There's no one who has made it today who has never failed before, the path way to becoming proficient is always rough, full of thorns and obstacles, it takes determination, courage and a good source of encouragement to climb.
My Experience
I have learnt a lot of things but I ended up quiting many of them along the way because I could not endure the heat. In fact some of those things were things that I so much cherished but I had to let go because I felt I don't belong there. out of many of them, one of which I know I endured and I am still enduring is writting.
I so much love to write, even if it's not for anything but just for pleasure. It gives me inner peace heheh. But when I began the journey it was like hell for me. Though I started writing little stuffs before I joined hive, but it was more of my personal life and more of motivational writings. During those days I was having a lot of difficulties, sometimes I write and I go out of inspiration, topics to write on was also big issues. So I gave writing little attention compared to other things
When I joined Hive I was so happy because I knew I am in a place where I will be built. The truth is, when I started giving writing attention again because of Hive, I discovered that I was a total novice. Sometimes I don't need anyone to even tell me that my work is not good enough. Each time I read my work and read that of others I feel discouraged and worried to some extent because I knew that I was just learning work😂.
Soon I started feeling like I don't belong here, I thought of just quitting because I was feeling I can never make it. Considering the level my fellow hivers who have same reputation with me are, I was nothing but the dullest. The truth is I was confused because I don't know where to start from. I had no one to guiding and give me hints on how to write. It was as if I was standing alone.
I created My Ways
With all the discouragement, I felt I don't have to give up. I know it took all those good writers time to reach where they are. I know I can make it too. So I became my motivator, one thing I put on my mind was that I will be in for anything whether failure or success. But I will never let anything weigh me down.
Miraculously I stumbled upon a post of one of the moderators in Hive Learners community brunokema and that was how my hand started becoming strong. Each time I read his work I picked new ideas and new ways to write . When I discovered that his post were grooming me, I didn't hesitate to follow him up So that I won't miss anything he posts, that was how it continued.
I will never stop saying this, one thing that always amazes me with his works is the depth with which he thinks. He ensures he covers every area concerning each topic he is working on. I also read from one of his posts, he said sometimes he gets a quiet place and just allow his mind to flow through whatever he wants to write and the ideas keeps coming. wow!!! Is that it? So I got used to being alone in a quiet and peaceful environment to write.
It got to a point where I started loving it more, it became like an addiction, the more I discovered I could write some on my own, the happier I get. At this point all the discouragements faded away.
Subsequently, I realized that God has really helped me. I could write to some extent but I know deep within me that I have not gone anywhere yet. Learning is a continuous process. Daily I strive to be better than the previous days. My motivation for writing is not just about the money but the joy I derive from it.
In conclusion, nothing is too hard or impossible to achieve. if we put our heart to it, we can attain it and don't forget that we can be the reason why someone out there achieve his/her dreams. Let's learn to appreciate and motivate people instead of criticising and condemning them.
This is my entry for week 47 Edition 01 contest on Hive Learners community with the title : An Amateur. You can check it out.