A child is born into the world empty, lacking any form of social skills and knowledge to navigate the world. depending solely on the directives of his/her parents for guidance and protection to stay out of harm's way. slowly and steadfast, the child grows in knowledge and wisdom he/she pass through the agents of socialisation.
Formulation of attitude and personality can be traced back to the socialisation process or genetically engineering, the most amazing thing is that along the line a child is prone to pick up some habits either positive or negative, though it might not be constant because some habits gets left behind and renewed by another as maturity sets in. while some habits are constant, such habits a child only get better at doing it.
In my own case, My habit is the constant type. well I can blame my rigid personality for that, I don't let go off things easily. on many occasions I have narrated situations surrounding my childhood from different angles, from the reality of my childhood home town, my days in boarding school and different experience acquired in my higher institution days, so there is no point narrating it all over again😅.
Not withstanding, let me explain a little to illustrate my point 😉, due to the unavailability of my parents presence especially during my days in boarding school, it was left to me to make tough choices for myself for the sake of survival. sometimes I make the right ones, while sometimes I don't I learn from my mistakes to make better choices in the future. if there was one thing more constant in my life is my unrelenting willingness to learn which has assisted me overcoming many obstacles in life.
Apart from that, there comes my special ability, my superpower I think😅.All my life I have always been an overthinker, which is an habit that has been part of me from childhood. at first it all started with just reasoning about my actions and choices before making them. One of my greatest fear in life is regret, I have always try as much as possible not have them, even if I end up making wrong decisions, I don't want to think of it as something negative but an avenue to learn new things.
Which has always been the back bone behind my one and only core principle of mine, which is actions and consequences. I believe every action will attract consequences, even the good ones. Due to my ability to think about my choices over and over before making them, gives me the ability to consider most possible outcomes before it actually happens, like I have always said I have a wild imagination, my thoughts goes beyond what any human can comprehend.
Being a child means, you are free to make mistakes and be careless but I never considered that to be a privilege, instead of being careless I decided to take charge of my life and be more careful in order to do that I have to over think even the most little of all decisions. it has its advantages and also it disadvantages, unlike others my ability to have fun is worrisome because I have to think about what I stand to gain by partaking in that action that is considered as fun and as we all know most of what people consider to be fun these days are kind of reckless and unhealthy
Considering that takes the whole fun out of it, that is why I tend to stay indoors most times, reading books {mostly books about conceptual topics and terms} watching movies, and games or sometimes board games, like chess, scrabble, monopoly, Ludo, most especially draft, I love that game😅, those kind of games allows you to predict every possible outcome of your opponent moves, which seems similar to my kind of habit.
The habit of overthinking has reduced my ability to be reckless, I find myself making only informed and beneficial choices most times. I'm extremely calculative of my steps especially when I really want to be. Over the years as I grew I have gotten better at it because when I was a child, I was an introverted overthinker, which is one of the reasons why I started writing because I feel shy and reluctant to share my thoughts with others and most children of my age, they see me as a weirdo, wondering why a child could reason like I do.
But these days to an extent I can consider myself to be an extroverted Overthinker though with limited social activities, no body hates parties like I do, especially the ones with loud music. it prevents me from thinking which in return makes me feel sick😅. I have made a lot of progress in my life due to this habit of mine, I have become more determined in achieving my goals and objectives, avoid reckless choices e.t.c my habit have its own spec, have you ever look at a person and believe you know what they could be thinking or the next action they might take. yeah I know what you must be thinking, this guy is a weirdo😅. I was right, that was exactly what you were thinking😁. the truth is humans are predictable if you pay more attention to their actions not words.
the habit of overthinking is quite impressive, you can never run out of what to think about but in this case, you can never run out of what to write about, you see I told you the habit is impressive😅, that will be all for now.
This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled "Remnants of childhood" in hive learners community.
