Marriage is considered one of the greatest human relations and marital duty of every individual. A practice existing for centuries before the birth of civilisation. Different religions with their definitions of marriage inscribed in the holy book. Has civilisation grew among populace of earth which also influence the way people engage in marriage and it's meaning.
I grew up knowing marriage as a union between husband and wife, family, entities and organisation. Regardless of it nature and practice, it became clearer to me that less emphasis are placed on degree of affection between the couple's, the measure of compatibility of a couple among many other things has never been about love. Though different individuals have different ways of ensuring both couples are compatible before marriage, through spiritual means and individual or family asset display, depending on the agenda of both families.
In this present generation, the practice and concept of marriage has become chaotic and unethical unlike how it was practiced honourably in the olding days. As days goes by case and issues of divorce has sky rocket to the extent that I find myself thinking about the reasons behind this union in this first place. There are a lot of reasons behind the cause of divorce but most importantly I'm interested in the reasons for marriage.
Though a lot of people disagree with my perspective of marriage, which they consider to be delusional but I still continue to believe that marriage is a choice not a necessity. I strongly believe the reason behind the union between husband and wife will eventually dictate how the whole union will play out.
Sadly in this present generation or century we have a lot of people getting married for the wrong reasons such as peer pressure, parental influence, monetary and properties ownership, kinship e.t.c. Without considering that marriage is a life long journey between a husband and wife, without significant or tangible reason for union between spouse, when other reasons such as money eventually fades away, eventually the desire to remain United fades away also.
In my hometown, there is a trending act called single mothers or baby mama. In the olding days this act was considered immoral and unethical among couples, I do not blame all women who end up finding themselves in a relationship with irresponsible men but for some they are very aware of the state of mind of their spouse before getting married to them, most especially in this era when men get involved in explicit act in order to get money and this is a major magnet that attract most men depriving them from thinking about the future a union with some who lies for a living.
On the long run, they make themselves and their children victims of unhealthy union as a result of their greed for things that glitters. I have grown to despise marriage due to its abusive nature and how it is practiced nowadays, I see a lot of young men and women and children who are victims of unhealthy marriages that could have been avoided, which got me thinking, Does it really worth it? It has become more obvious that love is no longer the primary reason that holds a relationship together anymore but individual desire of what they stand to gain in the relationship.
So speaking of prenuptial agreement, I consider it to be some sort of contract or agreement between couples before marriage to control most of the legal rights acquired through their union, especially to control the legal outcome of divorce and death of either of the spouse. The first time I heard of this was few years ago when I watched a movie called power. In the movie the main actor called ghost claimed that his wife will not get anything from him if she decides to embark on divorce, which kind of sounded cool to me.
Based on my explanation above, it is obvious that in this present era people get into marriage with all kind of intentions using love as a disguise which has made it difficult for people to believe their partners are capable of loving them without any agenda, especially for wealthy spouse. In order to balance the equation and eradicate any ill intentions, entering into prenuptial agreement seems like a secure move to prevent people from falling into the trap of dubious partners.
Moreover, signing a prenup doesn't mean the relationship is not love oriented, it is just a means to prepare for any unforeseen future legal issues that might arise in the future. No one can predict the outcome of a marriage, we can only hope for the best and seeing the rate at which people use cases like divorce to hijack and accumulate wealth, it is evident that there is a need to put some measures in place and for a logical person like me I wouldn't mind getting into prenuptial agreement with my spouse.
This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled "Love should be enough" in hive learners community.
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