Marriage is a two way thing, and it's either a blessing or a disaster. Nothing beats marrying the right partner, cause only that would make love a beautiful thing. A lot of people go into relationships for the wrong reasons, they were probably blinded with the butterfly in their bellies not knowing that with time love will fade and what will keep the marriage going is purpose.
It's almost impossible for a purpose driven home to break because they've not only built their foundation on love alone knowing fully well as they grow they would need something even deeper than love now called mood swings to thrive. Wait! Let me explain the mood swing. I believe the majority of us have been in a relationship before including myself and then for the first one month our mood would be like; babes let's just get married cause it feels like you have been with that person all your life even for the shortest period right? So now that's the mood for the moment.
Fast forward to three , five or six months we begin to have a rethink and the way we feel about this person drops to some degree and then we operate in an entirely different mood more like whether to stay or not why Because from now we see their true characters if it sits well with us or not, know their visions if we can run with them and some warning signals which a lot of people never took seriously which now end up in divorce if they eventually get married.
In a relationship, warning signals should never be neglected, especially if it has to do with violence or any kind of personality that doesn't sit well with us. I was listening to a message and then the preacher man said a newly wedded lady of just three months ran to him brutally bruised as a result of the argument she had with her husband. Now this was what the wise pastor did. He asked her if during courtship her husband has ever laid hands on her and she said yes but always apologized saying it was the devil. Not once nor twice he hits you when his upset and you still went ahead to marry him because he confess love to you then get ready for him to buy your coffin saying it was the devil's handwork. Painfully this is just marriage of only three months and all these which is why we must never neglect warning signals for ourselves and kids.
With the decision to finally get a divorce it not just affects the adults but also the innocent children the union was blessed with. We all know the trauma divorce can cause to children which takes a lot of time to be corrected compared to that of adults although it hurts but they can still move on. Children can't control their emotions like their parents would do, so a lot is at stake. Every child deserves both their father and mother love/attention so the children should be considered first. Not for both partners to remain in a toxic relationship which is dangerous but to create time for their children that it feels either of the parents just traveled.