Letting go of any unproductive relationship is never a crime, it is better to let go of some relationships than to manage them and hope it will be better, free myself from any relationship does not make me a weak person rather than a strong one, my mother will always tell me that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, this has been my slogan if I feel like patching any relationship.
Truly they said love is blind but we shouldn't allow the blindness to get to us in other to make bad decisions that would lead to Everlasting sorrow, though no one is perfect but we must have qualities we look out for in our partner, we can not just marry because of love, love alone isn't enough.
I once dated a guy who didn't believe in my strength, he always talked me down and never gave me room to showcase my talent, I met this guy at the university and we dated for some years, the relationship was so toxic but not to the extent of physical, we don't go physical but my mental health was at stake at that period.
My kind of person is someone who doesn't like social life, I am an indoor type and I love creativity, I love business and this is what supported me when I was in school, I never depended on my siblings too much, I love to make pastries and also cooking is one of my hobbies which I depend solely on when I was in school. My friends and course mates allow me to cook for their birthdays and make cakes for them, this has been my side hustle
Each time I made snacks to distribute to the provision sellers in my environment, he would talk down on it and say I was only stressing myself and how much am I gaining from it, he said I am belittling him, he doesn't believe in me at all, the biggest shock was when I told him I love to learn makeup, he said never, that only wayward people do that, he makes me look foolish and make me feel less of myself.
My opinion doesn't count in the relationship, he will never take advice from me rather he prefers to take advice from friends and relatives, he loves to do everything on his own then I decided to cut off this relationship because I won't have the ability to control it if we eventually get married.
Also, he is very extravagant, he does not know how to manage and he is not business-oriented, he loves to make money and spend it in a go, he buys expensive things and never thinks of tomorrow, I am not saying he shouldn't take care of himself but he doesn't know how to invest, how to double the little he has.
After we dated for some years I decided to end it because he is not the type of guy I want, I want someone who will push me to do more, I want a guy who I can help if things go bad though I do not pray for that, I want my guy to be proud of me and let my opinion count in any relationship I am.
I do not want to be a liability to the man who will get married to me, and I do not want my man to have any reason to blame the day he met me, I want to be a responsible wife, not the other way around but this guy doesn't seem to be the one I want, he doesn't deserve me and I do not deserve him as well.
I gave him my reasons why I had to end the relationship, I made him understand that we are way apart from each other, and I do not want to regret marrying him later in the future because it will be too late to go back and this may not bring peace to both of us and it will affect our children.
Letting go of a toxic relationship isn't a crime, we need to think beyond the present and check if our spouse is someone we want to spend the rest of our lives with and if they truly deserve it.
This is my entry for this week's episode of Hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w126e2 which the topic Is "THE WORST REASONS" Thank you for taking your time to read this.
