Let me just be honest with myself, if I ever found out that someone I’m in a relationship with could read minds, I don’t even know how I would feel. Not because I’ve done anything terrible, but because I feel like my mind is the only place I truly have to myself. That place is where I think through things, feel emotions, and even struggle silently. If that space isn’t private anymore, then what’s left? Losing it would make me feel exposed.
Imagine dating someone for months or even years, only for them to tell you one day that they’ve been reading your mind all along. Every thought. Every secret. Even the things you were not ready to share. It would shake me, I won’t lie.
I think I’d be shocked. I would replay all our conversations in my head, all the times I told a small lie to avoid trouble, all the things I wanted to say but didn’t. And the truth is, we all do it. We all keep some things in because we’re not ready, or we’re afraid of being judged, or we just need more time. But if that person already knows everything without me saying it then what was the point of me trying to protect myself?
I don’t like the feeling of being fully exposed, especially when I didn’t give permission and the worst part would be knowing and they didn’t tell me. Keeping that kind of secret is not a small thing. This is serious and I would feel betrayed because I believe every relationship should be based on honesty and choice. If you know something that big about yourself, and you keep it from your partner, it raises questions. What else are you hiding? What else are you seeing that I don’t know about?
Would I leave the relationship if I found out? Honestly, I don’t know. If I loved the person deeply and felt like he truly cared about me, I might try to understand why he hid it. Maybe he is afraid of losing me. Maybe he's just tired of being different. But I would still feel hurt. It would take time for me to trust him again.
Now, if I had known from the beginning that the person could read minds, would I have entered the relationship? Probably not. No, because I have terrible secrets, but because I value peace of mind, I want to feel safe in my own head. But one thing I know is this, if I ever stay in that kind of relationship, it would be because the person showed me love beyond just my thoughts. He would have to prove that he is not using what he knows to control or manipulate me. He would have to give me space, even if he knew everything already. Respect matters.
And if I choose to walk away, it won’t be because I don’t love him. It’ll be because I love myself too, and I need to protect my own mental health. Relationships are already hard with normal communication. Adding mind-reading to it just changes everything. Some people might survive it, some might not. But at the end of the day, we all deserve someone who gives us the chance to be human, to think, to make mistakes, to feel, and to choose what we share.
This is my response to this episode of hivelearners community prompt of
#hl-w162e02 which the topic is tagged READING YOUR MIND
