Hello guys everyone
How is your life today, of course I hope your life is well and always given peace and tranquility, related to the weekly featured content held by the community #hivelearners week 72 - issue 01 with the topic stress factors I will share and tell you a little about my experience a few years ago when I had to disconnect from my job, Because I have to settle down with my wife, this is one of the very tough decisions for me that I have to take.I have worked 8 years in the company, in my opinion I already feel very comfortable working in this company, I work in this company starting from the bottom and until now I have served as an assistant manager in the company, Indeed, at that time I was still single and not married.Suddenly my parents forced me to get married immediately because they thought I was very old to be the head of the family.
I have received several notifications from my parents via cellular about the problem of getting married, therapy sometimes I ignore it, I think personally I am not ready to get married, because I think getting married is not an easy thing for us to live, there are still many factors that we have to face when we are after marriage later.
After a long time I could no longer bear to hear every talk from my parents about getting married.... marry......
I also got tired of hearing that, and in the end I came to the conclusion that I should get married in the next few months.
Cause for stress for me
My future wife who was betrothed by my parents came from a village not so far from where I lived in my village, while at that time I worked outside the city, I had to come to a conclusion that I had to risent from my job, because my future wife was the only child in the family, Before I got married I had several times communicated with my future wife, but the decision still did not want to follow me for various reasons, in the opinion of my future wife, if I did not want to follow her direction, for her it was also okay, maybe we would not get married if indeed I had to take her out of town with me.
It was very hard for me to make this one decision.
One day I took some of my friends to eat at a caffe, and I told my friends a little about the feelings I was experiencing at that time, I thought there might be a good solution after I poured out my heart to my friends,
Indeed, of my many friends, there are those who support me to marry my future wife and there are some among others who refuse with my income to risent from where I work, according to them it is very unfortunate if I have to improve the place that has raised my name, indeed if you think about it sometimes the opinion of my friends who reject me risent is also true, Not necessarily I will get a job like this again, said my friend.
I prevent it by taking it casually is not too burdensome, because if we impose a problem it will cause severe stress on our thinking.
Getting married is necessary, I consider long story short I finally made a mature decision that I had to risent for the common good, being an assistant manager in a company is very difficult for us to submit a risent letter to the company awner, unlike ordinary employees who are easier when they resign, I have to go through several top parties with various questions that I must answer about the decision I took.
I had to wait two months to get a risent letter from the company after I had gone through several stages to tell me about my decision. Very firm and professional in dividing this company, therefore they questioned me about the decision I took.
Time did not feel, it was time for me to leave the company that had raised my name, I had to start from scratch again after I got married later.after I got married, at the beginning it was not felt about the new side of life, over time it would be seen how we had to fight hard to build our family from adversity, I began to look for a new job to be able to finance our needs, It is true what my friend said that for now it is very difficult to get a new job, even though I have experience, but the experience I have is that there are no job vacancies, very difficult right??
I haven't found a new job yet.
In life there should be no such thing as pessimism, we must fight as hard as we can in order to rise from adversity, and also avoid causing stress in our minds.
Indeed, the causes of stress are different, many things happen, the important thing is that we must be able to deal with it in a good way.
Thank you to everyone who has read, hopefully it can be a motivation for all of us behind this story of my experience.
Greetings from me @furkanmamplam