I have lots of things that make me different from the people around me and it has made me experience being
neglected by people when they eventually get to know me very well, it becomes disappointing to them when I turn out to be the other side of the impression they have about me.
I can be a very social person from a distance, the way I chat and relate with people online makes them think highly social of me but when they get close, they find out that my social life ends with everything online.
In the past few years now, I have been unfriended by many people who I thought were true friends. It is very understandable to cut people out of your circle when they disappoint you often but should it count with social function?
I dislike parties, this is not a habit I developed as an adult. I feel very uncomfortable in a lousy environment and the stress of going out, and sitting in traffic just to attend a party is not my thing but some see it as pride while some think I just don't care about them.
My mom use to tell me that she stopped attending church for some time when I was little because I do cry all through the service especially when music or prayer ministration is going on. I am still not very used to gatherings even till today, I can visit you, go out with a small group, not to a lousy atmosphere but parties are completely off my thing.
The last event I attended is the only one I have attended this year, it was an Islamic recitation and graduation of a little girl in the neighborhood. She is fond of me and her mother begged me to be there, I barely stayed for 30 minutes but I am glad I didn't disappoint them.
I have heard comments like, "it is better to attend people's event so that they will come to mine as well", and I still don't get bothered because I don't have the intention of ever throwing a lousy party for any reason and I won't be offended if only a few people show up.
I have friends who understand me, they don't even bother telling me about parties anymore, and yet, we still vibe regardless of the difference.
I had this group of friends at my former place of work, we somehow started with the goal of supporting one another for growth. We decided to start hanging out on Fridays after work, I didn't find it cool but I thought I will be able to blend in but I was wrong.
I went with them on the first Friday and I was so odd, the joke about me started when I ordered for malt drink in a bar. This group of friends insisted that I had a beer just to prove that I am a man, what does alcohol have to do with my gender?
I got a bottle of beer and I couldn't even drink half of the bottle after 3 hours of enduring the noise in the bar. I didn't attend the next one and more after but we were able to achieve a lot by putting our differences away. Not many have been able to get along with me just because of my poor social standard and I got to know people who love me for who I am.
Traveling is another thing I hate to do, I wouldn't travel for any reason except it is very important. Sitting on the bus for a long time doesn't make traveling fun but I don't know if it will change when I eventually have my car, I doubt if that will make a difference.
Everything attached to stress in the name of fun doesn't work for me but when it has to do with my job, I would gladly embrace the stress.