Love is a beautiful thing. When you are in love with someone, you can go extra miles to protect her.
Protecting someone you love could be providing what he/she wants, always being there for him/her in times of challenges, helping her physically and emotionally, and so on.
There was a lady I loved so much! She was my first love. I was contented with everything. I was in love with her, probably because she was my first love.
We could spend hours talking together on a phone. She was my childhood friend. I don't even know if she loves me; all I cared about was that I loved her.
I have loved her from childhood, when I never knew anything about women. When it was time for me to choose my love, she was my best choice.
I was able to speak my mind when I was 200 level to her; By then she hadn't got admission. Despite several ladies around me while I was in school, none could be compared to her.
Therefore, I didn't date a lady while I was in university and after my graduation because of my love for her.
Well! My friends began to say, “Chris has a problem”.
They observed that despite many ladies being interested in me, I did not choose anyone.
We could spend 3 hours talking on the phone about what our future would be like, and when to get married. I told him that by the year 2023, we would get married, she agreed.
August 2021 when my sister had her wedding, that was when I met her face-to-face after years I left Keffi, Nasarawa state. I grew up in Nasarawa state, but after my admission, I did not visit Nasarawa until 2021.
After the first time we met for years, I was very happy that day.
I took her to Grocery store to get her some stuff.
After three days, she told me, “Chris, I'm very sorry, I thought about everything and I came to the conclusion that we can never see each other again. You are my first choice but when young men came to me, my friend told me to give them a chance that I might not see you again. I don't want to lie to you. The young man I gave a chance to is now my fiance. I don't know how to say this on the phone, I would have told you. I'm so sorry”.
I thought it was a joke, I never believed her because I knew her very well before then. I could guess some of her attitudes and characters. I never knew she had changed.
Because of my love for her, I thought she was angry with me because I didn't visit her for a long period of time. I spent 2 months in the state because of her; trying to understand that I was at fault but she should pardon me.
I left the state and went back to Lagos state. 5 months later I saw her Introduction pictures on Whatsapp.
I was devastated that day, I was not on myself for 24 hours. I called her that night and she told me that, “I have told you everything my friend”.
I couldn't get myself for some time; I was just wondering and thinking. I could not concentrate in my office. My colleagues realized that something was wrong with me, they tried to make me happy.
Though, I had more than 4 ladies as friends but never thought of making anyone of them my love. I never let any of them know because they might take advantage of it.
I was in love with one of them so much but not like my first love. The love could not be compared to my first love.
I love her because she is a beautiful woman. Her beauty attracted me. I never knew she was very good, decent, elegant, futuristic, enthusiastic, and good characters. All I knew was her beauty.
I refused to call my first love for a month so that I could concentrate on my new lady.
After a month, I called my first love and she told me, “my fiance died a week ago”.
I thought it was a lie; I called my friend in the same city and she told me the same thing.
I began to love her again even better than before. She was begging me to come back, that it was the devil.
I wanted to go back but I realized that she was an infidel;
Despite her infidelity, I called her, advised her and even tried to attach her with a man over there. She's emotional down right now; I do call her everyday,
It was January 29, 2023 her husband died. January 29, 2024 was exactly a year that her fiance passed away. Look at my WhatsApp messages and her.
I always want the best for her despite her past mistakes. I didn't use her past to judge her, and I did not insult or run away from her.
I did not mock her because of her tragedy, and did not use it against her.
I do call her to ask about her work, career, family and new man for her.
More than a year now, it is difficult to get another man but I always give her advice, send her money to take care of herself and make jokes with her on the phone.
My wife must not hear this part! She must not hear I sent her money.
All I do is to protect her and that is love.
She couldn't be my wife anymore, then i made her my friend. She always regretting her decision but I'm always advised her that I wasn't made for her just to make her happy.
Well! The funniest thing is that my wife always said, "Chris you are the best man in this world. Your girlfriend did not see that in you but I see that in you because I'm we see each other often".
I stand up for success, and success is not achieved by merely making mouth, No room for laziness, no room for idleness. Success comes to the people who are desperately and consciously searching for it. When it seems unsuccessful or you smell failure around you, never discourage yourself from being successful.
“Discouragement and failure are the two surest stepping stones to success.” - Dale
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